The palace of happiness collapsed, and the husband cheated, preferring to leave the house clean and divorce

In marriage, there is a person who dotes on me, loves me and forgives me. I feel it worthwhile to pay for him. I have a happy family and a husband who knows both cold and hot. We have been married for 13 years and have a daughter who is in middle school. The image of his husband is good in people's eyes. No matter his relatives and friends, they all praise him as a man who can do great things and will hurt his wife. I have always been very confident and satisfied with our marriage.

My husband and I used to work in the same company. My husband is a senior manager who lives from nine to five every day. One day he told me that he was tired of this kind of life and wanted to start his own business. I checked the deposit at home and agreed with him. So he resigned and opened a car beauty and decoration shop with his friends.

After a lot of efforts, their business is getting bigger and bigger, and several branches have been opened. The income has increased many times and the material conditions of our family have also improved a lot. After selling his current house, he bought a villa and a sports car for my daughter and me. The family became bigger, and he also hired a nanny to manage it. I don't know how much money he has. I only know that today he is rich and generous. He needs money to solve everything. But such a superior life is always invincible. Those students who didn't look up to me in those days will pay homage to me every New Year's party, praise me for my vision and marry such a good husband. Everyone has a sense of vanity. Every time I am praised by them, I feel very comfortable.

However, if happiness goes too far, it will backfire. Because my husband is busy doing business and has no time to accompany me and my children, I gradually feel that I am left out and not valued. We will fight for trifles. After more than three words of speculation, family conflicts became more and more serious, and we stopped talking and turned the quarrel into a cold war. It happened that I had a stomach attack once. I called my husband. He not only didn't answer, but also turned off his cell phone.

I was so angry that I couldn't drive because I was ill. My aunt handed me a taxi and took me to the hospital. The doctor told me to pay more attention to my body and eat regularly. When he got home, he called me if he couldn't find me. I hung up with anger. When he came home after seeing a doctor, he quarreled with me in a rage. The nanny explained, and he shut up. I cried bitterly, and he just said sorry and made a hasty decision. From then on, I found that he was not the same as usual.

He became restless at night. When he returned home, he often looked at the strong smell of perfume. Every time I asked him what he was doing, he looked indifferent and came back to me and said that the customer talked about the order and smoked him. In fact, he rolled the sheets with women and got the body fragrance. This is what I found from his mobile phone later. I confided my grievances to my girlfriend, who advised me not to bind men too closely. Especially for such rich men, the tighter they hold, the easier it is for them to stick to women outside.

I listened to my girlfriend's advice and talked to my husband as if nothing had happened. His reply to me was that I had a crush on a woman who could communicate with me. Let me choose a day to go through the divorce procedure with him. The villa and car are all mine. He only wants a daughter. I tried to keep calm and talked with him, but his temper changed greatly. "All the property in the family is for you, and you are not at a loss. I don't want to see your face for a moment.". Now I don't want to talk to me, and I don't have any feelings for husband and wife. How can I continue? Why is it like this?

Reply from the consultant:

As we all know, marriage is particularly prone to problems after the fresh-keeping period. In fact, there are more disadvantages in a peaceful marriage. When a man becomes financially powerful, those women who are strong will climb up the pole. The temptation is getting bigger and bigger, only to subdue it.

The happiness of marriage makes women relax their vigilance. They think that the occasional anger, grumbling, coquettish, capricious, or simple neglect will make the lover notice themselves. However, when the man's emotion changes, these small details are fatal to marriage. He chose to leave the house clean, which shows that he has lost faith in marriage. He only wants his daughter, which means that he still has a conscience and has not been ruthless.

You have worked hard for more than ten years in your marriage. If you give in to each other, you will not be reconciled in your heart. Here are some suggestions for you:

1. Don't rush to discuss the divorce with him, try to stabilize the current marriage, change the wayward temper in the past, and pay more attention to him.

2. Consult with your husband in case of trouble, arrange parent-child entertainment, cultivate the tacit understanding between husband and wife, and relive the beauty of love. Marriage needs to be managed. Don't give up when you encounter difficulties.

3. Give yourself and your husband a time limit. Calm down with each other and treat your problems rationally. If he is not ready to return to his family after some efforts, divorce may be your better choice. No matter what time, you can't hurt yourself. Life has a long way to go. We can't suffer ourselves.