The middle-aged wife burst into a girlish heart, threw her husband and son away for the young man, and gave me a green hat

I am forty-one this year and my wife is thirty-eight. I am three years older than my wife. We have been married for ten years and our child is nine years old this year. It is said that men are more mature as they get older. At the age of nearly 40, I have a good harvest in my career and family. Many young girls in the unit are willing to play with me. There are many girls who throw themselves in the arms and make eye contact with me. I am rather rigid and don't like to mess around. When I have a family, I have to be responsible to the end. It's not my style to be capricious. I can have today's achievements, and my wife have great achievements. I will not disappoint her, and I will not forget my original intention.

My wife and I grew up in the same city. After graduation, my mother didn't want me to go far, so she stayed in the city to work. The salary in my hometown is very low. When I first went to work, my monthly salary was only two or three thousand. Since I choose to stay at home, I will work steadfastly. My boss is also a native of the city. We have the same habits and hobbies, and we can talk very well. One Sunday, he asked several boys from the company to help him move. That is, this time, my marriage came and I met my wife.

Although I am a little old-fashioned, I am familiar with myself and can chat with anyone. At the end of the day, my wife and I talked about a lot of topics, and found that there are many common interests between us. After coming and going, we became familiar with each other and naturally became lovers. The boss dotes on his daughter like a princess. Seeing how much his daughter likes me, he chose an auspicious day, arranged our marriage, and gave us a house to promote me to the vice president of the company. I think my good fortune was spent in that year.

Days are fleeting. In a flash, my wife and I have been married for ten years. With my busy career, I spend less and less time with my wife. She takes care of her baby at home. In terms of housework, we have hired a nanny. She is also enjoying a happy life. In addition to taking care of the children's study, the wife seldom worries. She does maintenance and drinks tea with her little sister on weekdays. Life is very narrow. Nearly 40 people look like girls in their twenties. Every time she goes out to a party, she takes her wife with her face.

In the last year, I found her distracted and absent-minded. They are less considerate to me and my children in the past. They often giggle at their mobile phones and frown when they see me. During the Mid-Autumn Festival holiday, I made time to take my wife and children to play outside to relax and relax. On the way, she played selfie with her children, and the rest was playing with her mobile phone. There was hardly a word to say with me. I took the initiative to talk to her. Her eyes were cold, and she kept staying on her mobile phone.

That day, I peeped at her cell phone while she was sleeping to find out what made her so addicted. Looking at WeChat, I first saw a man with a picture of a big boy chatting with his wife. The WeChat records are only kept for the last two days. I can't find out why. When I opened the boy's circle of friends, there was a picture of his wife entering the country together. What was more surprising was that they were facing each other, and then turned down a picture of the hotel and showed it to me. Although no one appeared, I saw his wife's bag with sharp eyes. The release time of WeChat coincides with the time of his wife's trip.

Now I know why she doesn't like to see me and why she always hides worries on her face. It turned out to be cheating. When I found that she had brought me a green hat, I was so angry that I reached out and hit her. Not only did she not explain, but she hit me back and broke my face. It was my fault that I knew to peep at my wife's mobile phone except for work! I work hard, I work hard, not for this family. Her father has given me such a heavy burden, and I have to bear it. Why is she so ignorant, and even make such a thing as cheating?

She explained that she felt in love with that man, and she liked it. I was going to be angry with her. Before I could clear my mind, she packed up and left home while I was not at home. Excuse me, teacher, what should I do now? Is it necessary for me to continue with her after she abandoned us irresponsibly?

Reply from the consultant:

You and your wife have different starting points from love to the current marital crisis. Your wife pursues perfect love. Her family condition is good without financial pressure. She pursues spiritual perfection. But you, through your wife's status and achievements today, are under too much pressure. You are preoccupied with displaying your talents and don't let yourself fail the people who have expectations for you.

Over time, your mentality and goals have changed dramatically. She is less and less sad about you, and today's derailment occurred. If you still have feelings for your wife, it is suggested to recover it. She was temporarily obsessed by feelings and couldn't tell right from wrong. You should let her see the reality of this society and officially her current situation. Reflect on what you did not do well. Two people should communicate well. Marriage depends on both of you. Don't lose your family in order to be angry.