According to statistics, 5000 couples divorce and 5000 families disintegrate every day in China. In front of the huge numbers, we are shocked; We are surprised that many men and women in the post-80s generation can't resist the seven-year itch. What's wrong with people?
In front of the cruel reality, many men and women stop outside marriage and dare not step into marriage, for fear that entering the besieged city will ruin their years of sweet love and their happiness. When you are in love, you are only faced with the pure love of two people, and marriage is simply a "game" between two families. Marriage was originally a great joy, but in some ways it was a "torture" for the groom and his family. From the decoration of the new house, to the preparation of the wedding, to the wedding ceremony, many aspects were borne by the man. If you are lucky to meet a nice woman's family, you will suffer if you meet a picky one.
Therefore, whether men marry or not, it is not the relationship between them that has gone wrong. Most of the problems come from the outside world. For marriage, a man has his marriage bottom line. Once he touches this sacred and inviolable bottom line, there is only one result - breaking up!
House - the pain of men's marriage
The popularity of "Dwelling in a Narrow House" and "The House Is Unbreakable" has pushed the big problem of the house to the audience, and the house has also become the pain of men's marriage.
In today's society, people are becoming more and more utilitarian. Many girls tend to worship money and become money worshippers. They regard marriage as a trade for money. Without a house, car, or ticket, don't think about marrying her in the door. The high price of housing makes many men flinch before marriage. How many marriageable men can afford a priceless house? So, in order to get married, many men are willing to risk being scolded by others, and also want to be the gnawing old people and let their parents buy a house for themselves. Poor parents, in order to have grandchildren as soon as possible, and for the happiness of their son, have contributed all the rest of their hard life
However, those men with ordinary family circumstances and no age to chew can only hesitate to get married or not when their girlfriend asks them to get married. It is not their own the final say, but the woman's the final say. If the woman really wants a house, she can only step back! Therefore, many people say that nowadays, many girls are not married to men, but to houses and tickets!
Betrothal gift - marriage is unavoidable
Historically, before marriage, both men and women will discuss where to hold the wedding banquet, how to hold it, how to give the wedding, and how much to give. The ancients believed that the married woman was like the water poured out, and the hard work of raising her daughter for many years would be measured by the betrothal gift, which would be regarded as the return of her family's years of rearing.
Everyone knows that marriage is a bride price, and everyone understands its meaning, but many lovers break up because of the bride price.
Some women's families feel that they have spent a lot of money and material resources to raise their daughter, so they will charge a lot of money on the issue of bride price, which makes the originally pure love become a high price, just like selling their daughter. Perhaps from the point of view of the elderly, there is no doubt about this, but from the point of view of the son-in-law, they are free to love each other sincerely and want to get married together, rather than buy their daughter-in-law through money. Is your daughter happy if her son-in-law gives more money?
In front of the priceless bride price, men will also stop. Sometimes it is not that he cannot afford it, but that he is unwilling to give it. If his father-in-law and mother-in-law speak so loudly, it will only make him afraid that after marriage, his mother's family will make endless demands and become a bottomless pit.
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law - to live in harmony with mother-in-law
When it comes to mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is the most difficult problem in marriage. Many loving couples will get stuck because of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and even end up divorce.
From the point of view of men, they all hope to find a good daughter-in-law, be filial to their mother-in-law as well as themselves, and live in harmony with their mother-in-law. However, the mother-in-law is always dissatisfied with her daughter-in-law. She picks the bone from the egg and makes her daughter-in-law suffer. Men are also like double-sided tape. It is difficult to make both sides, and neither side is human.
Before deciding to marry, many men will try to let their girlfriend and mother live together to see if they can live in harmony. If the girlfriend is unable to accommodate his mother, many men will choose his mother instead of his girlfriend. In traditional Chinese thought, marriage is the order of parents. A man must get the consent of his parents if he wants to marry. In addition, there is only one mother, and you can continue to find a more suitable one after your girlfriend breaks up.
Marriage is a big event. Before marriage, you must think carefully. A man has his bottom line. If you want to enter the marriage palace with him, don't touch his bottom line!