Post Date December, 02 2023
Divorced, years or decades of love have come to an end like this. Perhaps you may feel reluctant when you calm down, or you may even want to ask each other some questions you want when they turn around in the end. However, in some cases, there are questions that we should not ask, because at the moment when both parties have decided not to turn back, any more words would seem unnecessary. From the experiences of many divorced people, we have summarized the following 5 questions. Take a look, how many have you asked?
Don't ask, can we still be friends
Everyone knows that after a divorce, there is basically no connection between couples for the sake of each other's future new families. It's best not to bring up the idea of making friends after divorce, because the other party is either really unwilling to make friends with someone they have already given up, or for their own future. They would rather not have such friends.
Don't ask why she had the heart to break up
This kind of question can make the other party feel even more disgusted towards you. "Why do you have the heart to divorce? Have you not realized your own shortcomings yet
Since we have already divorced, let's simply leave. Since the other party has chosen to divorce you, you should know that in their heart, they no longer want to have any contact with you. Asking whether they can still be friends can only be said to be deceiving themselves.
Don't ask if you still remember the happy past
Sometimes, the abandoned often want to use the beauty of the past to recall the love they once had. This is not impossible, but there are too few possible times.
Do you still remember your past happiness? "Such questions often make the other party disdain them during divorce. Because what you need to know is that the moment he leaves you, it already indicates that he no longer cares about the beauty of the past. He only remembers the various contradictions that followed, and only wants to do is how to quickly rescue himself from the pain of these contradictions.
Don't ask yourself where you can't compare to him
She will say that he is indeed better than you, although she may regret it, it is not during the breakup.
Perhaps in the eyes of others and yourself, his lover is almost inferior to you in all aspects. However, in the eyes of the other party, the lover at this time is their own goddess, and you are a "scrap" without any interest in you.
Don't ask yourself where you can't compare to him, at this point he will give various reasons to introduce you that you are not as good as that person. So, this kind of question itself is destined to have no answer you want, even if he may regret his judgment in the future.
Don't ask what position you are in his heart
In your opinion, this issue may be about wanting to achieve a true result during a breakup, which is known as' letting oneself die to understand '. But don't you think this kind of question is a bit childish? If your position in his heart is supreme at this moment, will he divorce you?
Perhaps he would say that you used to be very important in his heart, but now you can no longer find a specific position in his heart. This may be the truth, or it may be giving you up. Anyway, you won't be very satisfied with any answer, will you?
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
