Post Date December, 03 2023
When we hear the three words' hidden rules', our first reaction is that they are derogatory. Nowadays, there are hidden rules everywhere in this society, with some crying, some laughing, some helpless, and some sighing. If the various hidden rules of today's society make us marvel at the darkness and sadness of this society. So, the "hidden rules" in marriage symbolize the longevity and sweetness of a happy marriage, which may be worth understanding and savoring.
Underlying Rule One: If you get married, you must have rewards
The first hidden rule in marriage actually occurs when we marry a woman or want to marry a man. You should know that all love, even in selflessness and greatness, has demands, and marriage concretizes these demands. Apart from fulfilling your previous promises one by one, I can't think of anything else you want to "hide" or be "hidden". If you don't have the ability to raise a woman as a family, don't marry. It's not your job to let a woman support you, but whether you can support her or not is related to the long-term plan of your marriage; If you're not ready to be a wife yet, don't get married. Men may not demand that you're not your business, but whether you can do it or not is related to the sweet and lingering nature of marriage. In marriage, giving is necessary, and the amount of return is directly related to the happiness in those who hold onto it. There is no free lunch in the world, and it is even more a joke to just "eat" and not give it during marriage.
Hidden Rule 2: Amplify Advantages and Tolerance Disadvantages
Everyone has greed, and when we receive it, we gradually overlook the advantages we have discovered and gradually expand and clarify the shortcomings. If we cannot amplify our strengths and tolerate our weaknesses in marriage, over time you will become a deserter even if you do not become a resentful woman, and our marriage will become a shackle or suffering.
In fact, men and women who enter marriage may slack off and may no longer be enthusiastic, but the strengths we once fell in love with will always be there. It is our already tired heart that makes the face of our weaknesses detestable. The residual warmth of love can last for up to two years in a marriage, and after that time our marriage cannot rely solely on the phrase 'I love you' for eternity. Sometimes, we are trapped in the besieged city of marriage due to the narrow path of our enemies, so we have to entangle ourselves with the old and slowly talk about love.
Underlying Rule Three: Compromise in the Truth of Marriage
Marriage is not just the union of two men and women, but rather the intertwining of two previously unrelated 'historical scrolls', specifically the integration and connection of two social relationships. That is to say, what we marry is everything about each other, including things and characters, including what you like and what you don't like. You used to be overjoyed, maybe you won't be lonely and lively anymore, or you might never be happy again and turn to pain. People who are unwilling to compromise are not suitable for entering a marriage, not for a particular man or woman, but for our marriage. Marriage is a career. If you don't like it, don't do it. If you choose, stick to it. Perhaps success or failure cannot be used to judge the quality of marriage, but it will not make your life pale. A happy marriage is the journey where flowers bloom.
Underlying Rule 4: Husband and wife relationships are strained relationships
A person's life cannot be smooth and bumpy, and marriage can also be troubled by various trivial things in life, which can cast a shadow. Fortunately, in marriage, two people were always better than one person, but unfortunately, the two people in the marriage are not one heart. So, as soon as the troubles in life enter marriage, they become even greater conflicts, and the disputes between men and women become more and more complex as they enter marriage.
If the relationship between husband and wife cannot transition to a life threatening relationship and cannot support each other and cover up for life and death, then such a marriage is meaningless, and the people involved should not be affected. Please remember to be with your lover, at any time and in any situation, rather than sitting at home waiting for that person to rush ahead, let alone retreating and making that person cold to the core.
The above four hidden rules are the secret to maintaining long-term happiness in marriage. As a part of marriage, it is important to grasp them well.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
