The first time you visit your parents and see what gifts they bring, the most popular feeling | Super detailed practical introduction post

What gifts should I bring when I first visit each other's parents?

This question is really important.

If you do well, you can help you brush off your favoritism and even deal with your parents at one stroke. On the contrary, it may cause you to reduce your score at the other party's parents, or even increase the negative score.

However, geese, many people don't treat this problem very well. Either they do it in a hurry or they try too hard.

In combination with the draft solicitation of the previous few days, Peach is going to make a super conscience, super practical and super detailed introduction post this time.

First, correct some problematic ideas.

"As long as people go, it doesn't matter if you don't bring gifts."

This idea is really wrong. We are a country of etiquette in China. How can we be empty-handed when we visit someone's home for the first time.

Even if the elder of the other party would say, "Come here, what gift do you bring? It's so polite."

That doesn't mean they really don't care about gifts. It's polite.

"Just bring something with you. It doesn't need to be so deliberate."

This idea is dangerous. Since you are giving gifts, don't rush things, let alone visit your future daughter-in-law/husband's parents, not Uncle Wang next door.

The group of "ex-boyfriends" has always been tireless in providing us with negative examples——

There is another negative example of not paying enough attention to gift giving——

"Just give me a red envelope. It's both convenient and practical."

Soft sister coins are really popular, but our culture stresses implicitness.

It would be somewhat abrupt to dump cash when visiting each other's parents for the first time, but carefully preparing a gift is more thoughtful and safe. You can keep the red envelope and give it later.

"Nima, it's so troublesome to meet a parent. I'm gone!"

It's too troublesome to face the trivial marriage life in the future. It's more comfortable to be a single dog directly.

Actually, meeting parents is not as complicated as you think. In general, pay attention to the following aspects.

Pay attention to etiquette

First of all, don't make basic common sense mistakes when giving gifts, or your parents may think you don't understand etiquette.

Negative example——

When knocking on the blackboard, the Chinese people stress that "good things come in pairs". When giving gifts such as cigarettes, wine, Dim sum, tea, etc., they should try to make an even number to be lucky.

(For mobile phones, watches, scarves, clothes, electronic products, etc.)

We should combine each other's growth environment and family taste

As a side friend said in a message, "When choosing gifts for the first time, we should combine the growth environment of both parties... Taste should respect each other's family."

Gifts are sent to other people's homes, so we must consider comprehensively the family situation, living habits and taste of the other party.

For example, the same way is to send red wine, but the following two examples have different effects——

Another positive example——

Do your best and do your homework

Just like asking about your favorite girl, ask about her parents' preferences.

Only when they are satisfied can they be sent to the other party's heart, the value of the gift can be best reflected, and the degree of favoritism can be max. It is suggested to negotiate with the men/women ticket.

Let's start with an example of a tragic result of taking a routine without doing homework——

Not too many positive examples——

If possible, show your sincerity to the maximum extent

If you are willing to invest your time and energy, you might as well learn about the other party's family culture, family history and family habits, so that you can send a very targeted and unique gift, and show your sincerity and delicate mind to the maximum extent, and maybe you can win with one move.

First, throw two examples of adverse weather——

These two examples are really rare. For most people, they may not have the opportunity to understand each other's family in such detail, but they can still reflect their intentions in the details.

For example——

Another example is——

(Popular science: Fenglufu is a package skin traditionally used to carry and pack goods in Japan.)

Be careful when delivering special products

Many friends think it is better to send home specialties.

For this, it is generally recommended to be cautious and think before acting.

Because some local specialties are neither delicious nor practical.

There are also some local specialties that may not be accepted by people in other regions.

There are also some specialties of Taiyuan Ecology, which are not suitable for making gifts for the first time.

Negative example——

Is that why we can't send special products?

Of course not. If you want to reflect the characteristics of your hometown, you should try to choose some practical, widely accepted and safe categories.

Positive example——

Give health care and nutrition products "according to the case"

It is also recommended to be cautious when sending health care and nutrition products.

Unless you inquire about the health of the other party's family in advance, "apply the right medicine to the case" and make targeted purchase. Otherwise, it would be awkward to send out health and nutrition products at will. It's a pity to throw them away, but they can't be used.

All permanent family members should be considered

If there are not only parents but also other elders or junior members in the other party's family, they should take full consideration when preparing the gift and try to share it with everyone. Otherwise, some people have it, others don't

Of course, we should not be careless about the number of people, and gifts should be targeted.

Positive example——

Some other important relatives also need to be considered if they plan to visit.

Important elders should be treated with extra caution——

Try to be more valuable within the scope of economic conditions

This is especially applicable to sons-to-be. If you are a man, please be careful when meeting her parents for the first time, even if you overdraw one month's salary.

Needless to say, the truth is related to the security of her daughter for the rest of her life.

As one sister said, "The most straightforward way to come to my house for the first time is to express his love for me through courtesy."

One way is to choose some gifts that can easily see the price. For example, when sending cigarettes and wine, try to choose more expensive brands. For those who send scarves and scarves, try to choose real silk and cashmere. For bags and cosmetics, choose famous brands.

Of course, if you don't need money, you can have a bag of apples like the following one, which is simple, rough and destructive——

And the girl below, I respect you as a man!

If you are poor in money, you should take out other advantages

If you are not willing to spend money, please maximize your strengths as an affordable man/woman——

So, what should we pay attention to when we meet each other's parents for the first time?

1. Pay attention to etiquette and don't make common sense mistakes.

2. Make inquiries about family members' preferences in advance.

3. Respect each other's family taste and living habits.

4. It's not surprising that many people are polite, but how many things can be prepared.

5. Try to be more expensive within the scope of your economy.

6. Be careful when delivering special products and health products.

7. All permanent members of the family should consider it as much as possible.

If you still don't make anything, you can refer to the following——

Gifts that basically won't go wrong:

To aunt: silk scarf or scarf (good quality, such as silk cashmere, simple and generous design and color), a set of cosmetics (at least medium grade), women's bag (leather), bird's nest, jewelry.

Send to uncle: razor, expensive cigarettes and alcohol (ask the other party whether they smoke or drink in advance), good tea, electronic products.

Finally, he said that he took a child as a gift——

Peach just wants to say——

Good night! I wish all lovers can take care of each other's parents!