The fiancee refused to cohabit before marriage. I saw a hospital diagnosis in her bag. I was frantic to break up
The two people talked well and established a love relationship. A few months later, we got engaged.
On our side, after being engaged, we are a family. Living together, we will not leave gossip. Our family bought a wedding house two years ago. It was renovated last year. After the engagement, my fiancee and I discussed moving in. She smiled shyly, shook her head and said that it was not too late to move in when we got married. It's useless for me to force her to refuse. After all, it's not sweet to force a change.
Although she didn't live together, she was very considerate to me. She would come to my house during the rest, help me clean the room, wash clothes, and cook some food. She looked like a good wife and mother, which I cherish very much. Several times I wanted to make love with her, but she changed the topic and let me not touch her, which made me very depressed. The wedding date is set for the New Year. In recent months, we have been busy buying furniture for our new house.
That day, she went to the bathroom with her stomach covered. I thought she ate her stomach and didn't care. Before long, she called me in the toilet and asked me if I had any tampons at home. I'm an old man. How can I use this kind of thing? She blushed when I asked her. I said to buy it for her, but she said to let me find the rest in her bag.
I am very strange to this kind of thing. I never go to such places in supermarkets, which is often seen in advertisements. Turning around, I saw two similar tampons, one big and the other small. I wanted to open my mouth to ask which one was, and felt embarrassed. I took both directly. As a result, he was laughed at by his girlfriend. It turned out that the small tampon was just a pad. Thinking of my stupidity, my girlfriend's bag was turned upside down by me. I want to help her tidy it up. A piece of paper fell out of the bag.
I wanted to pick it up and put it in. Out of curiosity, I opened it and looked at it. It was a hospital diagnosis, which clearly wrote the details of the pregnancy of my girlfriend. I've never touched her. How can I be pregnant. At this time, my girlfriend came out of the toilet, saw my surprised expression, grabbed the paper, sat nervously in front of me, and let me listen to her explanation.
I looked at her expressionless and looked at her at a loss. She explained in a panic, a little incoherent. I understand the general meaning. The child is her ex-boyfriend's, and after the engagement, they met once. They were supposed to make the final decision, but they didn't want to be drunk. They opened a room and found themselves pregnant. Her girlfriend went to the hospital for examination and had an abortion operation. The reason why people don't live together is that they need to recuperate because of the abortion operation they have done in the past. I wanted to cheat me, but I didn't expect to make a fool of myself.
As she spoke, she cried and apologized to me, but my heart collapsed and I wanted to break up. It was a good relationship. How could it be like this. The fiancee was pregnant with other people's children and had an abortion. How can I accept this? I'm totally stupid, but I can't part with it. I'm so tangled. The more she cried, the more upset I was. What should I do?
Reply from the consultant:
From your whole narration, your relationship with your girlfriend is very good. She said goodbye to the past, made a mistake and was pregnant. She solved it silently, which is enough to show that she wants to live well with you and doesn't want to hurt your feelings because of this kind of thing.
Now that you know the truth, she is scared and panicked, and her explanation can also see that she can't persuade you. However, this kind of mistake has occurred, and you are particularly concerned about this matter. You'd better not hurry to get married, don't break the knot, and reluctantly get married. You will not be happy after marriage. In your mind, she is a good girl and a good wife and mother. You can't accept this kind of thing at once.
If you really love her, don't worry about the details. Observe her for a while, untie her heart knot, and then plan to get married.