Post Date May, 19 2023
The child has a strong appetite and likes to eat desserts, but has never had any. What should the child do?
Children who want to eat desserts will definitely find ways to find them. Perhaps he will find it in the end. Perhaps the thing he discovered has already gone moldy. However, the child does not know that it cannot be eaten, or their desire to eat is better than everything else. Usually, parents rarely eat desserts, so the child eats them without restraint, regardless of whether they are rotten or not. Should parents blame their children for eating too much moldy food and causing stomach pain? Or do you keep the rotten desserts easily accessible to children?
Similarly, for children with a strong desire for knowledge and curiosity, what will happen if you always refuse to answer their questions directly?
Children will definitely find ways to satisfy themselves, but when they search everywhere, besides the purpose, it is inevitable that there is knowledge beyond that age, but the child does not know that it is wrong. Because his parents have not taught him, as long as he explores on his own, the child may make mistakes or fail. Should parents blame their children at this time? Or should one blame oneself for not choosing the appropriate knowledge to educate children?
The child's imitation ability is surprisingly strong. When children were young, movies, television, calligraphy, painting, newspapers, and what adults said and did were all the objects they imitated, and sexual issues were even more so. Parents believe that their children are still young and don't understand anything, so they completely ignore this issue, which has become a misunderstanding for their children.
A mother recounted what happened to her 6-year-old son. When her son Bin was playing with a neighbor's child, her son asked the girl to take off her pants and lie down. He also took off his pants and rode on the girl, while another boy was watching from the side. Coincidentally, the neighbor saw and told the mother.
Before this mother's reaction at the time, she was almost out of breath and failed. But when she raised her hand to hit her son, she asked, 'What did I just do?'? The child naively replied, 'I'm riding a horse!'!
This mother doesn't know how to start. Next, the son happily told her who to play with, how to play, and a naive expression in his speech. The mother said to me, 'I know my son did something wrong, but I don't know how to talk to him.'. What should I do?
Firstly, don't be simple and rough. A 6-year-old child may not know what their behavior represents, and their actions may stem from imitation. Therefore, being simple and rough is unfair and cannot solve the problem.
Secondly, in the process of a child's growth, one cannot avoid conversationality. If a child has problems when they are young and cannot receive proper guidance, they will enter adulthood with problems. Parents should tell their children not to do this and what kind of games they should play.
The earlier you start, the easier it is to implement. Because children start playing with their genitals before school age, this is the beginning of sexual awareness. According to the survey income, discussing pregnancy and childbirth with children before the age of 7 usually does not make them feel difficult. Therefore, it is not difficult to familiarize children with these concepts and happily accept them from a young age.
Some parents feel ashamed to talk to their children, the biggest reason being that they mistakenly believe that their child's sexual concept is a representation of sexual behavior. In fact, children should explore facts more about their thoughts on sex. Therefore, as parents, we must give up narrow thinking and start implementing it when our children are young.
