Post Date December, 03 2023
Duke Zhou:
We've been together for two years. He's 12 years older than me, and he's 36 this year. My question is: Maybe I treat love more idealistically, or I don't trust him very much. I always feel that he treats me very badly sometimes, deliberately saying that I'm busy at work, and I don't even pick me up on the street alone at night. And I had to promise to marry him before taking me to see his parents. I don't think he is sincere. For him, I am relatively naive and always need his care. I have a strong psychological dependence on him.
His problem was that he didn't think he had cleaned the house spotlessly, so he wouldn't let me go to his new home, saying I would definitely get him dirty. And I always keep things from me, a bit male chauvinistic, and I love face.
In fact, these are all minor frictions that have little impact on our emotions. The key is the last time we fight. "I played too late at night and ran out of cars, so I couldn't go back, so I asked him to pick me up and take me to his new home. He said he wouldn't let me go because he was too tired and was about to go to bed. I asked myself to find an internet cafe and surf the internet all night, and then turned off my phone.". I felt very cruel and proposed to break up with him.
He was hurt and said that the good horse would not turn back. After two months, I learned that he had quickly married a woman I hadn't known for a long time! I feel like a bolt from the blue. What's the reason? anonymous
Anonymous:
Many people find another person the first time they break up. But usually men have a higher success rate. "Because men can take the initiative, as long as they throw the" marriage "bait, many women will still be taken in.". Women also have other opportunities to find after falling in love, but due to the tradition of "women not taking the initiative" and various subtle psychology, women have a relatively low success rate - but as a result, their chances of making impulsive mistakes are also low.
The reason for "breaking up and falling in love" is easy to understand. Firstly, you are used to being accompanied by someone and not used to being empty around you. What should you do then? Do you still need to think? Secondly, many people flash in love to argue for breath - if you don't cherish me, others will cherish me - so they find a show for you.
However, flash love may not necessarily lead to flash marriage. Most people flash in love just to make a transition and get through the pain of falling in love, and the flash in love ends. But considering that your ex boyfriend is 36 years old and has lost you, he must be afraid that it will be difficult to find him later. So grab one in a hurry, whatever it is.
This flash marriage has a low love component. The main function is to comfort his injured heart and self-esteem. He married to balance himself and annoy you - this marriage contains such complex elements, how high can its happiness index be? I'm not very optimistic.
"Breaking up and Flash Marriage" is very lucky and tolerant. Luck refers to whether you have met the right person or not. In case they are not suitable, once the honeymoon period is over, the future will be difficult. Tolerance, as stated in "If You Are the One 2", is that any choice of marriage is wrong, and the key is whether you are willing to make amends—— Do you think he will? I don't think so. He is a picky and neurotic person who refuses to let his girlfriend come over when the house is not tidied up properly. Is such a person easy to get along with? The answer goes without saying. Marriage is rarely happy for people who are not easy to get along with.
So, are you feeling better? You don't have to worry too much. This is a marriage with hidden dangers. Let him go.
