Men actually don't distinguish between good and bad, but should distinguish between suitable and unsuitable. No matter how good a man is, if he is not suitable for you, you will not be happy and happy with him. So, how can we choose a man who suits us? On the other hand, even if someone truly meets your high standards, is that kind of man necessarily suitable for you? Choosing a man is not about how many flaws he has, nor how many strengths he has, but about which strengths he has that are suitable for you.
1、 He has strengths that suit you
Some girls choose men with extreme strictness at the beginning: not having good looks, not having a pleasant voice, not having a good walking posture, not being picky about eating, not having good taste in speaking... Although a high threshold may seem to make you choose carefully, the risk is actually greater because it can waste many potential opportunities. Many girls choose from the age of 20 with extremely high standards, and by the age of 30, none of them can catch the eye of the law. With such standards, she would never be able to find a partner, so she became anxious and wildly lowered the standards, randomly selected, and finally chose the worst one.
2、 Looking at the Future in the Low Period of Men
As you all know, even with a monthly salary of 20000 yuan, a boy around 25 years old is unlikely to be able to afford a house in the city. To measure a man's material foundation from a developmental perspective. Usually, a man's life is at its lowest point around the age of 28, and his career, life, and love will not be particularly satisfying. Of course, this refers to ordinary boys, and neither the wealthy second generation nor the official second generation are included in this list. So, don't judge his lifelong career based on his income and property at the age of 28. At that time, the income was three thousand, and in the future it may be thirty thousand; At that time, the income was ten thousand, and in the future, it could be one million... Please focus on "sense of responsibility" and "whether I love you". Being able to support you now will be even better in the future.
How to determine whether a man can get out of a slump? It's actually very simple. You don't need to care about how much he lost, nor how he lost. You just need to care about the timing of his low period. If he spends all his time studying or searching for new opportunities everywhere, he is sure to succeed; On the other hand, if he spends all his time playing and gambling, it's over. So, when a man is at a low point, you should be the easiest to choose the one that is bound to succeed in the future.
3、 A good man is good in the details
Girls often have two ideas: one is to find each other's shortcomings from the details of men, and the other is to directly find each other's great strengths. For example, if you like romance, he happens to be able to say love words; You like loyalty, he just doesn't like going out to play; You like to spend money, and he happens to be able to earn money for you... As long as there is one advantage that can meet your main needs, then this is a good man. Other shortcomings, as long as they do not violate the bottom line, do not worry.
We found in the case that the vast majority of men who can grow old together with their wives are actually very ordinary. They must have many shortcomings, but at the same time, they may not have many powerful advantages. Men are animals that do not pay attention to details, so observing the details of men's behavior can reveal a person's shortcomings. But more importantly, the details reveal a person's strengths.