Post Date December, 03 2023
Do you find that we often quarrel about the same thing over and over again? How meaningless it is, isn't it? It is meaningless to discuss these repetitive things any more. No one can persuade others, and the feelings and opinions held by both sides are still deeply rooted.
What if we simply skip the topic, stop provocation (which is usually the case) and talk about something more positive?
Of course, this is easier said than done, but it can make people start talking and find a topic that may not be so personal. It is a very easy topic for us to talk about what has happened in the world: there is a lot of content to talk about; Or can you talk about books or your favorite old days without disputes? Or talk about your expectations for your future or current job.
In my opinion, quarrels are only caused by people's initiative. It takes a little skill to avoid stepping on the same minefield. Although we will experience various things in our long life, this can be done. If you know that talking about certain topics will eventually lead to quarrels, it's better to talk about movies or TV dramas instead.
This morning, when my husband was about to talk about the topic that always made me sad, in order to change the topic, I admitted that I had been sitting there crying when watching "Call the midwife" last night. I'm not sure why I cry.
The most sad scene for me was that the man fell down from a high place and struggled to breathe for a while, but finally died in the hospital. I saw him lying there quietly, his face blue and white. He's dead.
I told my husband that this scene resonated with me, because my beloved husband once fell off the ladder and was sent to the hospital because his lung was punctured. My words reminded him of this terrible experience and the days he spent in the hospital, so the content of his words deviated from the topic that made me sad.
Of course, this approach will not always be effective, and sometimes it may be undesirable. But if you really want to avoid arguments, you can try!
