With the development of the times, people's psychological changes have become open and open-minded. Many people feel that if they fall in love, they can be together. Many people feel that marriage is only a form, so many people choose to cohabit before marriage. However, couples who cohabit only have two outcomes, namely, marriage and separation, and it is impossible to cohabit for a lifetime. The editor believes that if a female friend has a marriage idea, they must carefully choose to cohabit, because some couples are doomed to break up, and even if cohabiting for the purpose of marriage, it is necessary to consider the following points.
1. Cohabitation without a fixed marriage date
Among couples who break up, women often feel that their initial cohabitation is not very smooth. Couples who do not have a clear cohabitation time and goal will be unable to find a suitable marriage time. Therefore, it is better to specify the "target time for marriage" at the beginning of cohabitation.
2. Living a normal life like an old man and wife
Without entertainment plans such as travel, I have been living a "normal life". "A woman said, 'It's like we're already old husbands and wives.'". Living a constant life every day, there are no exciting moments left. At least Dim sum should be given on the anniversary of two people, so that we can seize the opportunity to get married.
3. Don't talk about future topics
"You can't talk about specific topics such as how old you want children.". Many couples do not discuss their plans after marriage, and conversations between them cannot proceed smoothly. Whenever you think about it in reverse, you will find the best time to build the family of your dreams.
4. "As long as you're happy, you can't get married."
"There are also women who say, 'I don't see any intention of getting married.'". There are indeed people who do not understand the importance of marriage. After learning that "the other person wants to get married" is no longer helpful. To avoid this situation, how about seriously discussing future topics with the other party.
5. Feeling uneasy about the financial situation after marriage
One woman said, "My boyfriend often changes jobs, and my income is not high.". Even if two people have love, if they don't have money, they can't get married. Setting a goal in advance of "saving enough money for a wedding within two years" can be very effective in saving income.
6. Hate or fear each other's kinship
A woman said, "My boyfriend seems to be the eldest son of my family, and I don't know much about the customs in the countryside. I feel a lot uneasy...". Many people are afraid that after marriage, relatives will increase and restrictions will also increase. Having said that, it's best to make a decisive decision because you have to live together for a long time in unfamiliar places.
7. Living together without formal visits to both parents
Women say, "We must take marriage seriously.". Couples who have not formally introduced their families can only spend long periods of aimless cohabitation. Once time is made available, there will be thoughts such as "why doesn't that guy come home and say hello" that the other person is not good for their family, and gradually they will move away from the path of marriage.
Summary: With the increasing number of people choosing to cohabit, many people believe that premarital cohabitation is to allow both men and women to blend in and see whether their sexual habits can be accepted. Many people also believe that premarital cohabitation is a disadvantage for women, and cohabitation requires certain risks to be borne. Therefore, both men and women must consider carefully before choosing to cohabit, and contraceptive measures must be taken when cohabiting.