Post Date April, 15 2023
Many men in life are very male chauvinistic. They usually ask women to do this or that, but those men cannot do it. In fact, men have always had a big misconception about women. The lover in men's minds is not the person around them, and the lover in women's minds is not the person around them. So what is the most ideal lover in men and women's hearts?
For women, men often complain with strong nasal sounds:
Women are naturally nagging
Women in love are always cautious and enjoy making trouble without reason
For the first type of complaint, women's intuition towards men is that they can't stop talking, constantly breaking up their thoughts. Chatting before and after meals; Chatting before going out, even more when returning home. A sesame big thing, repeatedly said, finished today, may continue to say tomorrow and the day after, and also said with a lot of resentment. It makes men restless, restless, and restless. You can't hide either, she will chase you and say. You can't talk back yet. Talking back is like adding fuel to the fire. If there is no agreement, the couple may end up arguing and even fighting each other. Many men start not wanting to go home because they don't want to listen to their wives' nagging, or come home late every day, which leads to more dissatisfaction and nagging from women.
No woman is born with a tendency to nag; No woman is so foolish as to live a good life, but she only finds faults with men when there are things to do and always picks bones in the egg. The fundamental reason why women cannot resist nagging is the huge psychological gap between before and after marriage. This psychological gap mainly comes from the following aspects.
Men often disregard small details and push all household chores onto women. The young couple upstairs are not fuel-efficient lights, and every once in a while, they always make some noise. They either argue endlessly or smash dishes and furniture. Upon closer examination of the reasons, it turned out that the younger brothers are too lazy to act like pigs. They come back every day and don't kick or hold their hands. When they return home, they become masters and know how to watch TV and surf the internet. They don't help buy groceries, cook meals, wash dishes, and do hygiene. The children never ask, and when their clothes are dirty, they throw them on the sofa. If their daughter-in-law is not at home for a week, the house is not as clean as the rural pigsty. And before marriage, things like this basically don't happen. A man is caught in a small braid by a woman. If she doesn't nag and vent, she will eventually become ill.
Male chauvinism is severe and often speaks for itself. Before marriage, men often follow women's orders and even if they have different opinions, they will discuss it, which can make women feel respected as never before. After marriage, many men, relying on themselves as the head of the family, suddenly change their ways and often say things without hesitation. They are often guided by their own anger and are unwilling to listen to women's advice, and even turn a deaf ear to their words. The sentence we often hear is: Don't be verbose, you don't have to worry about my affairs! Since getting married and starting a family, there is no distinction between you and me. Any decision will affect the happiness index of the marriage to varying degrees. A man's arbitrary behavior can greatly undermine a woman's self-esteem and confidence. Women have grievances in their hearts and have nowhere to spread, so they can only rely on their mouths to help.
Men are too playful and have less and less time to spend with women. Compared to men, women are more afraid of loneliness and loneliness, and expect men to accompany them from side to side. Most married men, on the other hand, remain engaged in gaming, indulge in online games, invite family and friends to drink and sing, or play card mahjong every three to five days without returning home at night. And when women ask to go shopping together, go out to play, and find a delicious snack to taste, men are somewhat reluctant, which will definitely cause great dissatisfaction among women. Before marriage, she was a princess, and men were running around like crazy; After marriage, she becomes a lonely figure, and men treat her like air. The feeling of being left out is definitely not pleasant. Women will think that being left out means not cherishing or caring. At the same time, men who are too playful are often perceived by women as neglecting their careers and not striving for progress. They will intentionally or unintentionally compare you with some successful men, and they will resent iron for not becoming steel, feeling even more disappointed.
In fact, there are many things that men make women nag about. For example, if they feel uncomfortable before marriage, men will make N phone calls a day, and after marriage, if they have a fever or a cold, they won't even bother to pour out a glass of plain water; Forget wedding anniversary and woman's birthday; wait. It is not difficult to find that men's carelessness and lack of attention to details often make women flustered, to the point where they speak without stopping. Women's nagging, on the one hand, is to vent their dissatisfaction and hope that men can change their ways and become better and better. On the other hand, women also care more about men's performance. The more they nag, the deeper they love you. Imagine one day, if a woman suddenly shuts her mouth and is no longer willing to gossip about men, what will the outcome of marriage be?
For the second type of complaint, women's intuition towards men is that they should be reasonable but not forgiving. Even a small matter with such a small nail cap can cause chaos, or they can become crazy without reason, distorting black and white, persistently pestering and arguing, making men neither left nor right, anxious and angry, and with a little bit of hatred.
A few days ago, I saw a joke online:
Female: It seems that you no longer love me, let's break up!
Man: I don't love you anymore. Can we stop making trouble without reason?
Woman: Am I making trouble for no reason? Yes, I'm making trouble for no reason! Can't you just say sorry as a big man?
Man: Okay, okay. I was wrong. I'm sorry!
Female: Humph! Do you think just saying 'sorry' is enough?
After reading, I couldn't help but laugh. In fact, a woman's constant entanglement and unreasonable teasing can sometimes be a form of playing tricks. The deeper she loves you, the more afraid she is of you treating her badly, the more afraid she is of losing you, and the more times she may flirt. Moreover, women all have a nostalgia complex. They will compare what men have done before and after, intentionally or unintentionally. If they find something wrong, the inexplicable loss and threat will come suddenly. This kind of unreasonable commotion is actually a kind of beating and reminding to men, which means that you can't be bad to me, I can't leave you anymore. To put it bluntly, it's a woman trying and inviting favors.
In a sense, love is intertwined with each other through endless arguments and confusion, which is not necessarily related to the size of one's heart. Imagine if a woman suddenly doesn't want to mess with you, and no matter what a man does, she is surprisingly calm and indifferent. How far can your love go?
In fact, men's misunderstanding of women has a long history. The reason for such misunderstandings lies in the fact that men always hold a high position and view women from their own perspective. If men could humbly change their perspective on women a little bit, perhaps these misunderstandings could disappear. For example, in doing housework, if a man is busy all day long, washing clothes, cooking, cleaning the floor, taking care of children, and a woman sits on the sofa, eating potato chips, watching the foam drama, reaching out for clothes, opening his mouth when eating, and shaking the prestige of the princess from time to time, men will also feel uncomfortable. If men can always think for women and women can always think for men, love will become very complete, and marriage will be harmonious and very happy.
The most ideal lover
1. Kind hearted and able to show filial piety to parents
Women can be petty and strive for more and less material enjoyment, but they must not have an unkind character, especially when it comes to treating their male parents and relatives harshly in terms of words and behavior, and not treating their male elders and friends kindly. Usually, a kind-hearted woman is the first choice in the minds of the vast majority of men, and a woman who can show filial piety to her parents and elders is a moral advantage that the vast majority of men highly value.
2. Gentle and considerate, knowing how to respect others
Men like those in the Korean movie "My Wild Girlfriend" are very rare. Although men's status is not as good as before, the vast majority of men still prefer gentle, virtuous, and feminine women from the bottom of their bones, especially those who are understanding, respectful of others, and have some knowledge of traditional Chinese women's etiquette. Although men no longer demand that women treat men with the same "three obedience and four virtues" as ancient women, at least men cannot be subjected to complete humiliation like in "My Barbarian Girlfriend", right?
3. Ability to manage finances and live from home
Although most men know that living at home naturally requires money, having more money may not be of great use, but at least it can make their families feel at ease and bring more sense of security to their families. However, it can also be very emotional if a couple argue all day for less money. Although more money can be spent more, and less money can also be spent less, the key is to have a plan for spending money. Therefore, men do not like women who spend money recklessly or have no plans, but rather shrewd women who have financial capabilities and can live from home.
4. Xiangfu educates children and understands things with great understanding
It is a mother's nature to love children, and there is no need to consider it. The key is to love one's husband, which is the prerequisite for men to choose a spouse. It is necessary to have the potential of a strong husband who can help her husband, and to be able to empathize with her in times of trouble. In the pursuit of career success and interpersonal communication, it is necessary to always maintain the principle of making up for the situation without breaking down the situation. At the same time, have patience and the ability to take care of household chores meticulously, and have the ability to participate in educating children.
