Post Date December, 03 2023
In life, which young male friends are in a state of mind before becoming a father, and after becoming a father, there is a state of mind, and there are great changes. Let's take a look at the psychological changes of men after becoming a father.
It is easy to ignore the wife's help
Many new fathers mistakenly believe that their wives can cope with all this without any help. So when you find your wife is very dependent on you, you will be surprised. The wife will rely on you as long as she knows you are around. If you feel excluded because you can't feed, your wife should probably squeeze some milk into the bottle so that you can help feed even in the middle of the night.
Afraid of hurting the baby
Babies seem to be fragile little things, so many men dare not do anything except hold babies. Those men with younger brothers and sisters are not so. In fact, as long as the baby's head is not dropped, the general fall will not hurt the baby. In order to overcome the fear of hurting the baby, you can watch your wife or midwife take care of the baby, and then try to bathe the baby, help your wife take care of the baby, and let her have a rest.
Gradually understand the baby
If you can take care of the baby with love every day - changing his diaper, bathing him, patting him, talking to him, etc., this kind of contact all day will make you feel more and more close to him.
A feeling of neglect
It is a very simple fact that every inch of the mother's time will be taken up in the first few weeks of the baby's birth. Therefore, fathers often feel neglected and even jealous. It is normal for babies to take the place of their husbands and become the new life center of their wives. Tell your wife how you feel when you have resentment and cause the relationship to deteriorate. You can also play a more active role in caring for babies.
They are happy to look forward to the early birth of their child, but there is also a potential feeling of being left out in their hearts (just like the feeling of being abandoned after a child finds out that his mother is pregnant), which can be expressed in the form of rough treatment of his wife, or hope to get together with his male friends in the evening, or flirt with other women, and so on.
Be treated as an outsider
It is easy for fathers to experience a feeling of being left out before and after their children are born in the hospital. He helped to send his wife safely to the hospital, where many people took care of her. Therefore, unless doctors and nurses allow him to enter the waiting room and delivery room, he is really alone in the hospital. He sat in the waiting room, flipping through several back issues of magazines, worried about whether his wife's delivery was smooth.
After his wife gave birth, he returned to his incredibly lonely home. No wonder the husband would take this opportunity to have a drink with friends in the bar. When he went to the hospital to visit his wife and children, the hospital did not let him feel that he was the head of the family. He was only a general visitor, and only allowed him to visit the mother and son at a certain time.
When it was time to take the mother and son home, everyone was concerned about the baby, and he seemed to play a major role as a porter.
Make more tolerance
The wife's body has undergone a great change; She had a baby for the first time, so she couldn't help worrying. Raising a child means that she needs to spend a lot of energy and energy. All this means that most wives need a lot of support and comfort from their husbands at this time. The wife should get more help and comfort from her husband than usual, so that she can make more sacrifices for the baby.
The husband should help take care of the baby, help with housework, and even give more emotional support: patience, understanding, respect, and love. If the wife is tired and upset, she may not be in the mood to thank her husband for his efforts, or even complain. In this way, her husband's work may be very difficult to do. However, if he knew how much his wife wanted his love and help, he would give his wife a hand and offer sincere love anyway.
The above introduces six psychological changes of male friends after becoming fathers. In life, many male friends have antenatal phobia before their wives give birth, but when they become fathers after they are excellent, they will have psychological changes. This is a normal phenomenon. As long as you do a good job in general, don't care too much. Children and wives are your treasures.
(Intern editor: Zhao Minqing)
