Post Date December, 02 2023
So far, I still feel a little high. I think it is a dream. Although I have made a lot of efforts to save my boyfriend, I still feel that the time is short, and I still feel that the success comes very suddenly. Maybe this is the result of teachers' professionalism. Now I write my own experience and share it with my sisters in recovery. It's not professional at all. I just hope to bring you some confidence and courage, and stick to it for the sake of those who once loved each other. Thanks to my friends who have helped me and the teachers who have provided me with professional psychological guidance through the China Marriage and Love Psychological Consultation Portal, who have given me great confidence and can be recovered more calmly and strategically.
My boyfriend and I fell in love for a year and broke up two months ago. The reason was that I was headstrong and angry. I also said that I broke up twice. The last time I broke up, I promised not to say it again. This time I said it again. He no longer forgave me and believed me, insisted on breaking up, but didn't blackmail me. He said that our character was not suitable, and he was annoyed when I quarreled. If I didn't quarrel, I was holding my temper. One month after he proposed to break up, I couldn't accept it at all. Almost every day, I wept, repented, and felt sad. I was particularly anxious to save it. But because of my stubborn personality, I also did a lot of wrong and stupid things. I mentioned all the questions I could ask him, and pushed him further and further. No matter how my friends advised me, it was useless to enlighten me. Later, there was no way. In order to help me save my boyfriend, my friends went everywhere to inquire about the psychological counseling company. Finally, a friend of my friend introduced me to the China Marriage Psychological Counseling Portal. She said that her husband successfully saved it with the help of the psychological counselor of the China Marriage Psychological Counseling Portal when he had an affair. She also said that the teacher was very professional and the service was also good.
So I turned to a psychologist. The teacher who received me was the Heart Harbor teacher. He first enlightened me and stabilized my mood. Strange to say, the teacher is an emotional expert. I slowly came out of the pain; Then, when I feel better and calm down, he will analyze me again, ask me to know myself, find out my own shortcomings and shortcomings, and then analyze what consequences these shortcomings and shortcomings will bring to me. Finally, through the breakup process I told, I analyzed the problems between my boyfriend and me and taught me how to solve them one by one. I also tried to cooperate with the teacher and constantly reflect on some of my mistakes. With the help of the teacher, I finally learned the real reason for our breakup through a month of calm and reflection. Then, according to the teacher's suggestion and in combination with my understanding of my boyfriend, I tried to change myself, and announced in the circle of friends and talk that I should not be capricious, lose my temper, and break up easily. I also showed my change and happy life in the circle of friends and talk, so that he could see my change, and I gradually became optimistic, so I persisted in the sun for a week, He began to leave a message to me, saying that he had never seen my sweet smile before! I continued to be silent and dry. A few days later, he couldn't help but call me to ask me out. The first sentence of the meeting was: "I have done something wrong before, let's make up!" I couldn't believe myself. I thought it was a dream, but it was true. I successfully saved my boyfriend.
Next, I will share with my sisters in the process of recovering my boyfriend with my own experience:
1. The mood fluctuation after breaking up is very necessary. A woman who has really loved and suffered from her lover's leaving seems to have destroyed the world. It is too difficult to be calm and rational. It is not so painful, nor can it really change and grow. But at this time, we still need to learn to control, and we can do something wrong. Don't be hysterical, crying, or even threatening to commit suicide. It may work for some people, but most of the time it will make men afraid and run away in a hurry.
2. After breaking up, calm down and give both parties time. Only when both sides calm down and have their own space to think alone can they recognize themselves, find out the problems of both sides, and then start from the problem point.
3. Find out your shortcomings and make corrections. For example, the reason why my boyfriend broke up is that he is willful and grumpy. He tries to change for this. At the same time, he shows your changes in his circle of friends and talks about it. Let your ex-boyfriend see your changes and surprise him with your changes. At the appropriate time, he interacts with his ex-boyfriend, talks with him about some interesting topics, takes the initiative when the other party responds, and continues to improve and change himself when the other party doesn't respond, Wait for the opportunity to continue the attack.
