Sexual Health
Sexual marriage: After months of inactivity with my wife, I unexpectedly became pregnant
Sexual marriage: After months of inactivity with my wife, I unexpectedly became pregnant
I admit that I am a man without skills or handsome looks. My wife and I have been in love for over 10 years since we got married. Over the past 10 years, many things have happened. During my love period, my wife betrayed me, and I was completely unaware of it. Later, when I realized something was wrong, she admitted it.
Because of love, we come together again. Because I love her very much, when she returned to me, we consulted with both parents and registered. At this point, I must admit that I no longer trust her so much. Due to economic issues and distrust, there was no wedding held for 2-3 years after registration.
And one day within these 2 or 3 years, my wife came home very late. I returned home after 11 midnight, but there was no sign of my wife. My father told me that she didn't come home and didn't have a phone call, and I was extremely worried. I went with her sister and brother-in-law to wherever she might go and couldn't find them! My sister and brother-in-law also asked me if I had a fight with them. I haven't had time to talk lately, so why bother arguing.
My family comforted me a few words before continuing to leave, and my wife didn't return home until around midnight. I was very angry and asked where it was going. Why did the phone shut down? After multiple inquiries, we finally came up with a sentence: "I won't tell you! The phone is dead." In the days before that, we definitely didn't argue! I hit her in a fit of anger and threatened a divorce, but she didn't cry.
After calming down, I explained to her that I would be very worried and that my actions were momentary anger, asking her to forgive me. She accepted it perfunctorily. In less than three days, she returned home late again, still shutting down her phone and not notifying her family. That night, I was waiting for her downstairs. After seeing her, she still said the same thing as last time: "The phone is dead, I won't tell you." I didn't call her this time, but gently said, "Don't go back to my house. You can stay at your sister's house for a few days. Think about our situation carefully, I called you. I'm sorry!" That night, I took her to her sister's house.
In the next few days, I, who had never sent flowers before, packed 21 yellow roses and sent them to her unit. She doesn't care much, this action makes me feel that things are not going well. Is it another betrayal by my wife? After multiple investigations, it was found that the truth was certain. I gave her several opportunities to let her tell the truth from her mouth, taking into account her years of love. I only want one word of truth, and I want her not to deceive me. I will forgive her and let her go without hesitation!
Unfortunately, she didn't tell me. It wasn't until I finally provided some evidence that she admitted it, but she was still deceiving me and fabricating another person! I just realized that that ignorant young man didn't even know about her marriage! She not only deceived me, but also deceived him.
I didn't get angry because at least I got the truth. I only said one thing: "Tell him the fact of your marriage, will he accept you? If he doesn't accept you, for the sake of this hard-earned family, I still accept you!" Due to my love for her, I gave up pursuing her and agreed to divorce!
The next day, she called me and requested to be with me; I admit you look like a man. "As a result, the young man couldn't accept it and they broke up. My wife returned to my side once again. Due to her father not knowing the details, I never revealed anything, and even her sister scolded me for using domestic violence recklessly, but I didn't say a word.
Then she went to work in another city, and I think it would be better if we were separated and could possibly regain our original emotions. Unexpectedly, after more than half a year of working in another city, my friends have seen them playing and frolicking together in the local area more than once. It feels like it's definitely not a friendship!
Originally, she had never cut off contact with that young man. I didn't say anything, not even inquire about it. Did my true feelings move her? It's better to say that kid has a new crush. She really came back this time, but I have even more distrust of her. I am on guard against her everywhere. I have no other thoughts, only one. I don't want to be deceived, nor do I want to inexplicably undermine the hard-earned recovery of this relationship due to my doubts.
After she returned to the local area, she requested to arrange the wedding immediately within a month. At that time, the family had just finished buying a house and had borrowed a lot of money from relatives in addition to the loan. My parents were honest and didn't want to owe too much to others. I had planned to wait for another year, and then I agreed with my parents' decision and discussed these difficulties with her. But afterwards, she didn't know why she didn't get my consent, and my parents actually agreed.
It must be emphasized that she has no high expectations for getting married. A place to live and a table to eat are very simple and simple. But I'm not feeling well! Marriage itself is our business, why don't I even have the right to agree? I got married like this, and after marriage, my sexual life has not been very coordinated, usually once every 1-2 months! In the two months since we had no sex, she actually told me she was pregnant. I'm surprised! It has been one and a half months since I went to the hospital. In addition, I ejaculate in coitus interruptus.
The basic common sense tells me that sperm can survive for up to 7 days. Where did she go in those 7 days? I'm starting to doubt it! She told me she wanted this child, and I firmly said, "No, we don't have the financial foundation right now, the loan hasn't been repaid yet, wait!" (Before this pregnancy, we had many abortions, and I know it's not good for our health. But for the sake of our relationship, I would rather have no children in this lifetime. Perhaps my thoughts are selfish, but I really can't control my doubts.)
The next day, my mother called me and cried, saying that I was not at ease, so why am I still pregnant at this time? I was very angry and shouted on the phone, "I haven't slept with her for two months, where did this child come from?" This sentence left my mother speechless. The phone hung up, and my heart was slowly cutting like countless sharp knives! After a few days, she and my mother didn't pass me again and decided to keep this child, leaving me speechless!
During my pregnancy, I always held doubts and never had the joy of becoming a father like anyone else. I treated her badly and didn't take care of her, leaning against my computer every day and ignoring her. Watching her belly grow bigger day by day, my heart has also begun to change, and there has been a slight transformation towards her! According to her, I haven't taken care of her at all.
The child was born, and watching my wife suffer, my heart felt very sorry. I began to take care of them, the mother and son, and I never reached out to work. I started washing diapers for the child and serving her. More than half a year has passed, and we haven't slept together before. She may have had a shadow or lost interest in this area, and I can understand.
The only thing I can't accept is that her feelings for me are getting weaker and weaker, and she even goes home at night. Only during the meal time can we meet without saying anything! Perhaps at this moment, she is holding a grudge against me for not taking care of her during her pregnancy! How could it not be like this! My parents switched her over with my father in order to have us share the same room, but unfortunately nothing happened. I took the initiative, even if it's not sex, there's no intimacy between husband and wife! I can't feel this emotion anymore.
At this moment, a girl 7 years younger than me appeared, and we had been working together for over a year. She was very clear about my character, family, and children! I have never had anything to do with any girl. It's not that I don't feel it, but that I don't give myself a chance to get involved in it.
But this girl is too kind to me. In such a cold family environment, my heart has shifted! When my wife realized something was wrong and my relationship with that girl was uncertain, I showcased my wife in the first place! No turning back, no regrets! I made a decision before I was sure to do something unethical! There is only one outcome - divorce!
After this problem occurred, my wife did not seek a solution, and I cannot say so. She also tried, but it was just a matter of method and time. The solution was to go to my workplace and have trouble for about a week. Afterwards, she once again chose to leave her family and children, and went to work in a different place. At that time, the child was less than one year old! My mother was right: 'Children can have no father, but they can't have no mother!'
The girl's parents also know that they naturally don't agree with us being together, let alone I haven't divorced yet! The atmosphere was chaotic. Three years have passed like this, and I have argued and made trouble with this girl, but she has never betrayed me. We have fought and collectively eloped together, and neither of us has abandoned anyone! No matter how poor I am, no matter how messy I am. If it had been just a search for comfort, now I can only express my apologies to her with love!
I am 33 years old this year, but I still haven't achieved anything. The girl is 26 years old and works as a nurse. My monthly salary is less than a fraction of their salary. I may not be able to give her any material possessions, at least I should have an explanation for the feelings and waiting she has given me!
But now the problem has arisen. In order for my child to receive a good education in a larger city, my sister bought a property for my wife and me. This property was only bought to change the child's household registration, and the total amount was changed. If we have plans for the whole family to come over, this house will not be transferred for the time being and will be lent to us directly, so that the whole family will have less trouble! I didn't expect these things to happen midway! The transfer of ownership requires mutual agreement between our husband and wife.
My wife feels very aggrieved, and I can understand that you can't give her something that's not mine! My sister usually takes care of me very much. Now my son and parents are all staying at her house, and they also buy me clothes and pocket money. How can I treat her like this? My sister's conditions are much better than mine, and I only found out that by 100 yuan, my sister had already paid 100000 yuan. I now know that by 1000 yuan, she had already paid a million yuan, and there is such a big gap between us. I want to make some money, but I am not afraid of hardship and have some brains. I want to borrow some money from my sister and do some business that can at least support me, but how can I keep my mouth shut in this situation
Recently, my wife and I talked and we agreed that there was no relationship anymore, and it had completely broken down. She agreed not to have any real estate, just to borrow a house in her hometown for her mother to live in. My family and I all agree with this, and just as we were talking, that girl called!
This move angered the wife and immediately changed her mind, proposing three conditions: 1. sue for divorce; 2. Wait for her to find a suitable destination before leaving; 3. Call that girl over and have a face-to-face conversation. The girl agreed to meet, but her wife changed her mind and disappeared. Now it's just a little bit, you can do whatever you love, just don't leave!
I never let go of my child and wanted to support my wife. My parents meant to support her, and she also agreed! Later on, when it came to substance, it was she who didn't want children! My parents said that I have always suspected the child's situation, but now the child's mother doesn't want it, so we can support it. If it's really like what you said, the child is not biological, then this is a matter related to property, so a parent-child test must be done. I agree.
It was done behind my wife's back. Due to three DNA mismatches that were crucial, I had to inform her. She was very angry at the time and shouted, 'If there's a parent-child match, I'll look good.'. The result came out, half to half bloodline. I feel guilty about this, but this is not the reason why we can still live together! I have also sought her forgiveness, but she did not agree!