Post Date December, 03 2023
My husband is really good. He is kind-hearted, good-looking, conscientious, and does not drink or smoke. Everyone said that I have found a "good husband". But I'm regretting how I found such a person with a lantern.
Since lovers became husband and wife, my husband's words have become less and less. When two people are together, I always keep my mouth shut, but he rarely inserts a word. When making love, he held me tight, but still said nothing. When I asked him to say something, he said, "What do you say?" Sometimes, I really envy the quarreling couple. I also tried to find fault to provoke him to quarrel, but he still kept quiet, and really found a piece of wood to be his husband.
Some friends also advised me that it is better for men to have less gossip, and what is it like to nag every day; Some friends also think that men are like this. They can't talk too much when they are in love. The wife is so relieved that she doesn't want to talk more.
During this time, I have thought a lot and observed my husband seriously. I want to understand why he has become so silent. Maybe it's true that men and women are different. I can't put anything down in my heart. I always want to tell it out. I also like to express my feelings in life. As for him, he has deep feelings and likes to use his own behavior rather than expression to reflect his own strength and value. So he may take silence as a kind of rest, or even a kind of enjoyment.
Recently, my husband's work must be very tired, because every time he comes home, I can easily see his fatigue. Also, the burden of life is mostly on his shoulders. Why should I ask him to pay attention to some trivial things in life? But even after thinking through these reasons, I still feel that my husband's silence is a torture to me. How can I turn this situation around?
These days, because I have been thinking about how to change this silent husband, I did not nag him as soon as he entered the door as usual. Occasionally, I did not chatter about myself as usual. While I was thinking hard about how to deal with it, I received unexpected results.
My unintentional silence seemed to make him unable to adapt for a while, and he thought I had some ideas. Just like the night before yesterday, after dinner, my husband didn't shut himself in the study as usual. Instead, I sat in front of the sofa with me, watching TV, and asked if I had any unhappy things recently, and whether there was any unhappiness in my work. His change makes me feel happy, at least let me know that he still cares about me. I took this opportunity to tell him about some recent difficulties in my work. For the first time, he enlightened and encouraged me. He said more that night than in the previous month.
Now I have learned to control my words and emotions, stop nagging like in the past, and let him take the upper hand in his speech from time to time. Now, my husband's silence has opened me half way, and I am confident that he can change back to the way he was in love.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
