Revealing the psychological truth of middle-aged men's tendency to engage in extramarital affairs

Extramarital affairs stem from dissatisfaction within marriage

Chen Fen (pseudonym) recently discovered that her husband Lin Qiang (pseudonym) was looking for women outside. As the chairman of a large company, Chen Fen couldn't understand why her talent and appearance were merged, and why her husband was looking for other women.

Under the guidance of a psychologist, Lin Qiang told the truth: facing the wife of a strong woman often makes him feel inferior, especially when his wife brings the chairman's demeanor to the house and talks to him like a child, he even feels that he is not like a man, and naturally has no interest in married life. Only when he goes out does he feel like a man, satisfied both physically and mentally.

Deputy Director Xu Zhizhi said that the lack of communication between couples and the failure to reflect their dissatisfaction to their spouses has caused psychological barriers for men. When they are unable to obtain sexual satisfaction from their spouses, extramarital affairs are inevitable.

Lin Qiang had a psychological problem and expected satisfaction from other women. He suggested that as a woman, one should distinguish between the roles of work and family, in order to avoid damaging the other party's confidence and affecting their marital relationship.

Marriage also needs preservation

Huang Dan (pseudonym) has been married for many years and has no children. She doesn't know how to do household chores, but the relationship between husband and wife is very good. The secret she revealed is: always keep him fresh! I have my own career. Firstly, I don't need to rely on my husband financially. Moreover, I constantly improve myself and demonstrate my excellence in front of my husband's friends and colleagues. My husband feels very proud and has always been obedient to me

It is understood that many extramarital affairs occur in the middle age of men. At this time, the secretion of estrogen in the female body decreases with age, or it has already reached menopause, which brings unhappiness to sexual life and makes men unable to obtain satisfaction

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Deputy Director Xu Zhizhi believes that modern people have a high probability of having an affair due to their wide range of communication, social interactions, relatively high external temptations (such as libraries and articles), and weak sexual attitudes.

As a woman, we should constantly inject freshness into our marriage, use our wisdom to create a loving atmosphere, improve ourselves from personal cultivation, clothing, and other aspects, and maintain our attractiveness to men.

Smart women need to know how to control men's hearts, so that they want to see through you but cannot see through you. "He also said," As men, they must also understand self-discipline and use morality to constrain their behavior

Multiple factors affect 'sexual interest'

Wang Xu (pseudonym) is a staff member of a government agency who has been married for many years without children. Recently, his wife discovered that he had an affair. Several communications not only failed to solve the problem, but also sparked a big argument, and the marriage almost collapsed. Wang Xu said that his marriage was a result of his parents' orders, and his wife was beautiful but not "sexy" in his eyes.

A man's interest in women can be influenced by various factors, such as family background, personality, experiences, and even the influence of previous generations such as parents, all of which may affect their judgment and feelings towards women

Deputy Director Xu Zhiming introduced that different men have different understandings of "sex". For Wang Xu, a slender wife is not a manifestation of female sexiness, so he cannot mention his sexual interest.

He said that men often have a higher demand for sex than women. When sexual satisfaction within marriage is not met, they often seek satisfaction through other means.

When a husband has an extramarital affair, as a woman, it is important to first find the root cause of the problem within the marriage, rather than through arguments, surveillance, or the tendency to let family and friends judge. "He reminded that finding the root cause through hospital doctors is also one of the solutions.