Post Date December, 03 2023
"I used to treat marriage like dirt, but now marriage treats me like dirt." This is the true mentality of many forty diamond kings. When they focus on a young woman in her twenties and despise a single woman in her thirties, they do not realize that they have already become an antique in the marriage market.
A woman in her thirties is always lamenting that she can't find a man who can trust her to "hand over". why? The men's singles around are either too small or too big. The former is the "post 80s" and the latter is the "post 60s".
If a boy in his twenties feels insecure to women because he is immature, then a single man in his forties is like an old house that has been idle for too long - dim lights, chaotic furnishings, tangled spider webs, and dilapidated beams, which can make women feel overwhelmed by the fear of being trapped in a "black hole.". This is the reality of the older marriage market.
How do men miss the "wedding season"? Most of it is due to blind optimism. He blindly believes in the "forty one flowers for men", and the older they get, the more valuable they become. It is this confidence that always makes him feel that the woman in front of him is not good enough. "He either enjoys the love around him happily, or lives a carefree single life, secretly waiting for the presence of a woman who has all kinds of charm and virtue, even if there is no such woman in the world.".
The more ambitious a man is as a teenager and excessively pursued by women, the more likely he is to suffer from love blindness and arrogance. The motive force of men's love is "sex", not "affection". Driven by reason, men's understanding of love may remain at the sexual level for a long time, while ignoring love.
Especially when a man has better financial conditions, he has considerable opportunities to squander the expensive but low-quality "love" provided by beautiful women. But sex is not. It is inherent in men. Therefore, men who are excessively addicted to sex will lose themselves more than women who are addicted to love. Once a man becomes romantic, he is a hundred times better than a woman. At this time, "love" has become the poison of men.
At the other extreme, some older young men have no experience of love when they reach the age of "not confused", and therefore do not know what life is. Men who are too shy or slow to respond to love, or whose sexual desire is not strong enough, may consider their work or career as "lovers.". Over time, women and life became the blank of his life.
Man is a very strange animal. The richer his experience and the more complex his thoughts are, the more he hopes that the other person will be pure. In fact, simple women have difficulty entering the vision of older men. His defensive mentality is also becoming increasingly heavy. "A rich man is afraid that a woman loves his money, and a poor man is afraid that a woman will laugh at his lack of money.". This is how older men's singles slip into their own psychological traps, bit by bit.
