Post Date December, 02 2023
It is said that one's heart is filled with grievances. If it weren't for the disharmonious movements in life, I wouldn't know how to reflect on my marriage. If it weren't for his (her) betrayal, I didn't know I could still live so strong. When I step out of the painful quagmire, what awaits me is another kind of life. Perhaps this is the secret to saving my marriage: to be reborn!
When I heard him (her) cheating, I was out of my wits, I was cynical, I complained about his (her) ruthlessness, I felt his (her) disgust, but I didn't realize my own problem at all. Because in my world, I never felt like I was wrong. Perhaps it is precisely because of this understanding that my marriage changed shape as I walked, cracked cracks as I walked, and a third party appeared as I walked. When I realized this, I no longer complained because I realized that complaining could only make my situation worse. What I need is a positive mindset, thinking about my present and future, rather than obsessing about his or her infidelity. But what can I deserve to be loyal to me for a lifetime?
It is said that hardship is the best university in life. Perhaps his (her) infidelity awakened me. I always feel that life should be more self centered and self indulgent, but I have neglected my function and responsibility towards the family. Perhaps I don't know how to be a good husband (wife), just like I don't know whether to add soy sauce or salt first when cooking. It is said that poor people must have hateful support. At the moment when he (she) cheated, I seemed to be a downright weak person, but what I saw was the disdainful gaze of others, and the hopeless gaze of him (her) towards his family. Suddenly, I realized that I had never reflected on my own life.
So I started going home after work, learning to organize household chores, learning to sort and organize clothes in the cabinet, learning to be patient when cleaning the range hood, learning how to mop the floor to stay spotless, learning to prepare children's clothes and books in advance, and changing my slovenness and laziness. When I took the exam to learn to be a family oriented man (woman), I found that he (she) began to view me with strange eyes, and began to understand that my own work requires me to make a Zhou Xiang plan myself. When I straightened everything out, I realized that marriage has never been 1+1=2, but 0.5+0.5=1. Unfortunately, I understood too late, and his (her) harm to me did not take into account my emotions at all. It is in this life situation that I begin to awaken and understand how a person should do their role well. And his (her) performance surprised me even more. He (she) still has hope for this family, and it is in this situation that we are reconciled.
Sometimes we feel uneasy because we lack inner awakening and strength. In a difficult situation, I realized that when a person starts to exert oneself, change their attitude, and behavior, their aura and luck will continue to change. This is the greatest lesson that reality has taught me. So if you want your marriage to be reborn, you must work hard to change yourself!
