Post Date December, 03 2023
Single-parent family is a family composed of only one spouse and minor children after death or divorce. For this reason, the concept of children of single-parent families can be defined as a family composed of a father or mother and his unmarried children under the age of 18 who have no ability to live independently. So we must pay attention to the children of single-parent families.
Children are more sensitive and vulnerable than adults. They do not have the ability to self-adjust their psychology. They are also difficult to face the harsh reality of family damage for a while, so they will feel at a loss and unhappy. Children also know how to compare. They will compare their present with the past, feel that their situation is not as good as before, compare themselves with the children of a sound family, and feel that they are not as good as the children of other people's families, thus breeding a sense of inferiority complex, and become timid, lack of self-confidence, and lack of enterprising and positive spirit.
The child is depressed because of being alienated by his parents, unwilling to contact with others, and often shows nervous symptoms of being alert and bored to the people around him. They always suspect that others will talk about the defects of their family and the divorce of their parents behind their backs. They think that others look down upon themselves and do not want to open their hearts to others, so they are closed, do not want to go out, do not want to deal with others, and show the characteristics of loneliness and introversion.
Because they have been living in a complete family, facing the sudden breakdown of the family, children cannot accept the present reality and adapt to the environment without father or mother. The child's psychology is not mature, he can't understand the parents' life, can't understand the parents' sufferings, and his young heart is fragile and sensitive, and has no ability to self-adjust. Once he is impacted, he will be at a loss and at a loss.
Self-blame is characterized by low evaluation of personal ability and quality, thus self-blame, self-contempt, self-contempt, attribution of all unhappiness to their own bad, and fear of what they do. The children of single-parent families have a strong sense of inferiority. They feel that they are inferior to others, pessimistic and disappointed. Because of their low evaluation of themselves, they attribute the failure of work and study to their own incompetence, resulting in negative emotional experiences such as anxiety, guilt, disappointment, and so on, which leads to their overall psychological imbalance.
Interpersonal anxiety is an indicator of the degree of premonition of difficulties and failures when contacting with others. In the process of their parents' divorce, the children of single-parent families saw the mutual attacks between people and learned the bargaining and hostility. Therefore, they lacked confidence in the interpersonal communication. Their guardians were out of tune due to the lack of family, which was easy to bring this emotion into the communication with their children. The children lived in fear, It takes a lot of time to deal with the broken family relationship, and feel anxious and insecure about interpersonal communication.
Because the split of parents will inevitably lead to the smoke or cold war in the family. Children live in a repressed space for a long time and are constantly worried about their parents' relationship. Even some children in families have become the vent of their parents' anger and anger. Children are always in fear and worry, and have no sense of security. They are always worried about and afraid of the outbreak of family war, which will make them physically and physically. Such long-term life torture can easily cause children to have fear and hostility, keep a distance from their peers forever, have a strong sense of self-protection, and have great hostility. Children from single-parent families often feel depressed, depressed, and irritable, and there is no way to solve their psychological problems.
Children from single-parent families, whether in material or spiritual terms, generally enjoy less than children from healthy families, and these are what every child yearns for. Because children from sound families can get what they can, but children from single-parent families can't easily get it, their psychology tends to evolve from initial envy to jealousy and hatred. Psychologically, they will show special attachment to their parents and hope to get double returns from their parents.
In terms of material enjoyment, if they can't treat the gap correctly and think that what others can get should also be owned by themselves, it is easy to lead to theft and other criminal acts. Because children in single-parent families have a low status in the "child circle", they are easy to be ridiculed and bullied by other children. However, they also want to be strict and appreciated, so they deliberately show their differences in words and deeds. Sometimes they even like to "stand up to the horns of the ox and stand up to the trunk" to show their existence value.
