Post Date December, 03 2023
The man called home and said, "The boss wants me to accompany him on a trip to Canada, which will take about a week. This is a great opportunity for me to get promoted. Please prepare me with clothes and fishing tools for a week. I'm about to leave the office and bring my things when I pass by. Oh, I almost forgot, I also brought that blue pajama
Next week, the wife warmly welcomed the returning husband.
The husband boasted and said, "Look what I've caught? Salmon, salmon, and a few cute goldfish..." Then the husband scolded and said, "Why don't you bring me my blue pajamas
My wife said slowly, "I didn't forget! It's in your fishing gear box
The wife muttered to herself, 'Why does the husband lie?'? Didn't he accompany his boss to Canada? So what exactly did he do this week?
From then on, the man realized that his wife's gaze at him was always strange, lacking the warmth and intimacy of the past, as if there was always something separated. Does she have any secrets to hide from me?
Marriage experts have found that lying can be very destructive to marriage, and skilled liars are more likely to suspect others of lying.
Intimate attachment relationships must be based on sincerity and trust, just like banks, where trust overdrafts only lead to a decrease in personal credibility, making everything seem like lying. Even white lies can damage marital relationships.
Generally speaking, lying has two fundamental purposes, one is to gain benefits from it, and the other is to evade punishment. Many men lie to their wives just to reduce conflicts, avoid arguments, and maintain harmony.
However, can lies really calm things down, avoid arguments, and lubricate marriage? The answer is no. Because continuous lying, even if all in good faith, can also damage marital relationships and even disrupt marriage. White lies are only subjective and have a small degree of malice, but their damage to trust is essentially the same as malicious lies.
Although telling the truth may lead to misunderstandings and criticism, lying may lose more. Because once a lie is exposed, it reduces credibility, alienates intimacy, and fools the other person's intelligence. Lying can sometimes be like a domino, saying too much can easily lead to a vicious cycle of being unable to extricate oneself. If you say the first one, you must say the second or Nth lie to maintain the original one. The liar will become increasingly guilty and impatient, and the likelihood of being exposed will also increase.
Psychological research shows that true liars are more likely to be suspicious of others, and those who are kind and honest always trust others more. Just like a wife who likes to suspect and investigate her husband after infidelity, it is precisely because she has a feeling of lying, moral pressure, and has deceived the other party that she feels that there may be secrets hidden behind their normal behavior. And those who have a clear conscience often let others off guard. Obviously, this behavior of "pushing oneself over others" after lying will have a serious impact on one's own emotions and the relationship between husband and wife.
Countless facts have proven that a major culprit in divorce is actually the complete breakdown of mutual trust, and couples can only "confide in each other" to maintain an intimate relationship. Attachment arises from trust, and any other falsehoods that claim goodwill and do not want to harm the other party are useless. Both parties must express their true feelings on a platform that can communicate with each other, while tolerating some of their spouse's mistakes.
Of course, there is also a big foundation for whether couples can "speak the truth" to each other, which is whether the psychological maturity and tolerance of both men and women are sufficient. Apologies and communication skills after mistakes are also very important. These all need to be well reconciled with each other. Non principled mistakes should be fully forgiven, and randomly arguing over small matters will only lay the groundwork for the next lie.
