Post Date April, 15 2023
Faced with extramarital affairs, most people choose to divorce, while a few still persist. This persistence is not necessarily for the sake of family or emotions, but more about not being angry and not compromising. In fact, the other party has already abandoned you, why bother with it? Here, what I want to say to those wives who have experienced extramarital affairs is that a deteriorating relationship no longer needs to be nostalgic, and actively saying 'goodbye' is beneficial for both of you.
The advantages of active divorce outweigh the disadvantages, because the relationship has long disappeared. Even if you still keep it in your heart, the other party has already left, it's just wishful thinking. Why bother? Moreover, actively divorcing can maintain one's dignity, avoid wasting more time and experience, and quickly overcome this dilemma, still facing a bright future.
It should be noted that although divorce should be proactive, it is important to pay attention to the method and timing, which can be roughly divided into the following two points:
Make divorce both quick and thorough
Many wives hesitate when facing their cheating husband because they still love each other and have adapted to their marital life, which can also lead to some dependence. At this point, you need to give yourself some strength to become more determined. Compared to a marriage that is difficult to sustain, you should love yourself more and have a better future.
When proposing a divorce, it is important to have an honest attitude and speak clearly. Do not leave any room for discussion or negotiation with the other party or yourself, nor be soft hearted. Divorce is not a means to save the other party. If it is proposed, it must be implemented. If it cannot be implemented, it is better not to mention it.
Calmly handle passive divorce
If you miss the reality of your divorce proposal, then you must bravely face the reality. Many women always exaggerate and embarrass the situation when they hear the other party say they are going to divorce. They either cried or made a scene. It is undeniable that this may be a genuine display of emotions, but it is indeed an unacceptable behavior. This won't do much to keep his heart, and your anger may even affect your image in his mind.
When encountering such a "passive" divorce, it is best to express your own opinions openly and sincerely, and end your relationship calmly. If your tone and demeanor are calm, it may touch him. He originally thought you would have a wild fit, but he didn't expect you to be so honest, direct, and frank. Even if it doesn't appear on the surface, he will still be touched in his heart.
This will make him feel more guilty about his actions, as he gave up on a reasonable partner. Your calmness can also express your inner feelings. You need to let him know that your relationship with him is not just a temporary pleasure. You are a woman with flesh and blood, serious about emotions, not a toy. Of course, in terms of speaking tone, you can also adopt a sad and sorrowful tone.
