People who are not independent cannot be a good partner

I often hear many girls say, 'If someone relies on me, I don't want to be strong either.'. Or if possible, I don't want to be smart and independent. It would be great to have someone to rely on If someone accompanies me, I don't want to show off Something like that. Most women may feel that they don't really want to be smart, capable, or strong (pretending to be strong)... but rather envy being such a tired woman. With a partner, you can have someone to rely on, and be someone to help you handle everything and take care of everything, which is happiness.

In fact, at first glance, it sounds very reasonable. When people feel lonely and cold, when they are discouraged and discouraged, they inevitably feel unhappy. If someone comes to save them and accompany them, then they can stay away from misfortune. Especially single people, when looking at someone else's happy relationship or marriage, have this feeling even more.

But upon closer consideration, can finding a partner solve so many problems? If possible, can those who have fallen in love and married be guaranteed to be relatively happy and happy? If so, why are there still so many people getting divorced or divorced? Can finding a good partner solve all the problems in life?

A person who is not independent cannot be a good companion

Gradually, you will find that there is a type of person who, after talking about love, puts the focus of their life on the other person, limits or controls their behavior (because they love you, they care about you), or treats the restrictions placed on them by the other person as love. Everything else in life seems to be unimportant, with a lack of seriousness in work, distancing oneself from friends and family, and lacking in social interaction and interests. It seems like a person without progress in life, with the only focus being on the other person.

So they often suffocate each other, pay too much attention to make themselves feel less secure, always have to stick together to prove love, and unfortunately lose love in the end, realizing what they have done in the past few years? Money has not been saved, work has not progressed, and even friends have moved away. So they lost love, and they were even more unwilling.

I have also met some girls who say that just crying can solve problems, so when she can't do or doesn't want to do something, she cries, and the boys help her. But over time, people can also get tired. If you don't give in a relationship and only want the other person to flatter you, you will eventually lose balance.

So you will find that people who are not independent enough will become drowning after talking about love. They will tightly grasp the floating wood and cannot move forward, feeling that love is the only one that can save their misfortune.

Of course, dependence and companionship are the beautiful and sweet parts of a relationship, but if you place too much emphasis on love and lose yourself, or if you rely too much on the other person and put too much pressure on them, the two of you become burdened and constrained by each other. This is not a healthy love either.

Is the other half responsible for your life?

However, I have also seen many people who actually place their happiness and life on love and partners. They will feel unhappy, unfortunate, life is not smooth, and not proud because the other party doesn't love them enough and hasn't given them a happy life. Even after falling in love or getting divorced, the overall life was not smooth, and they all blamed the other party for not loving him.

However, others cannot always be responsible for your life. Even if you lose love or marriage, you should be even more responsible for your own life.

Previously, parents may have thought that as long as they married a man who was financially good and loved you, that would be happiness. However, the divorce demography in today's society is so high that it is not easy to manage marriage. Finding someone who seems to have good conditions is no longer a guarantee. So, instead of focusing on the high-risk issue of marriage and meeting a good man, it's better to think about how to make sure that even if you don't meet a good partner, you can still live well on your own, and even if you encounter a bad partner, you can still turn your life around on your own.

Independence and companionship are a beautiful balance

Observing a relationship for a long time is not about who needs to rely on who, but rather that they are all independent individuals with independent abilities, and can complement and rely on each other in their interactions, achieving a beautiful balance of independence and dependence.

Taking myself as an example, as I am a quite independent girl, I continued my work and developed my interests after marriage. Economic independence also gave me the autonomy to dominate my life. Because of my independence, I can provide help and support to my partner so that they don't have to worry too much about me, so that they can work hard. Because I firmly believe that I can take care of myself in order to take care of him and not become a burden on him.

I often laugh and say that I know how to strike a balance between hard and soft. I want to be an independent and strong woman, and also a woman who knows how to be soft and coquettish. When accompanying others, I know how to lower my body and bend my waist, but on the other side of myself, I am independent in my thoughts, behavior, and finances. So, I can achieve a happy balance between myself and being with my partner.

Simply put, maintaining self independence, relying on each other in relationships, not losing oneself, and being able to give strength to each other is the most wonderful balance.

People who meet good partners are also good partners themselves

Many people look at a happy partner and envy them, thinking that they have met a good man. But to be honest, by observing many happy combinations, one can actually have a good partner, and he is also a good partner himself.

Emotion and marriage management are both mutual. You can see the side of others enjoying happiness, but you can't see their private efforts. No one in the world can be lucky enough to be happy without doing anything. This is not winning the lottery! And happiness is not just about finding a good partner. If you don't give, how can you gain?

Many people always believe that happiness is an external desire, something that the other party wants to give them, but in fact, if you don't have the ability to give yourself happiness and happiness, others will never be able to satisfy you.

So I often say, before meeting a good partner, make yourself a good partner. When you get better, you deserve better, right?

Learn to be independent first, whether you are single or with a partner, you can make yourself happy and happy.