Oral statement: The subtle fragrance floating outside of marriage makes me infatuated and worried

In today's increasingly popular era of "fast food" emotions and straightforward expressions, are there still people playing games of secret love? Yes, and they are a group of married men and women!

They say that because they have experienced it, they have more endurance. When a secret love occurs after marriage, the inner fear is less intense and the probability of settling it increases significantly. Because of my married status, I love you and don't want to tell you, quietly fluctuating and calming down, elevating my secret love to a new level.

My marriage's subtle fragrance floats

Jiawen, 27 years old, advertising planner

When men and women are together, there will be secret love growth. However, when young, secret love always gets out of control, and in the end, if it doesn't grow into love, it will grow into resentment. And married women like me are different. I have a mature and steady heart, which can not only enjoy the beauty of shallow water waves, but also ensure the normal progress of mainstream love.

I may be the kind of passionate woman that people often say, right? Wherever I go, I will see the man I like in the crowd, and my emotions will come at once. I am very excited and happy. Some men may never know that I have liked them, and others may see that I have a good impression of them, but they pretend that they don't have me in their eyes, so I'm not angry either. I am affectionate and not heartless.

After marrying my husband, I thought to myself that the dust had finally settled this time. But after giving birth, an intern came to work and reported to work on the same day as me. That was a real rock youth, a man who really let me have a Dim sum. Fortunately, I have the ability to conceal myself and make some jokes without revealing any trace of myself. After all, I am a married person, and compared to my previous secret love, my footsteps are getting lighter and gentler.

I have successfully grasped the scale of secret love, based on the principle of not causing substantial harm to the marriage. Time and time again, secret love songs are like the fragrance of cherry blossoms, blooming for a while as the seasons change, and then drifting away with the wind.

One person is bitter, three people are good

Yun Tao, 35 years old, business manager

She and I were classmates in college, and later we were assigned to work in the same unit. From classmates to colleagues, I have been secretly in love with her, with a deep affection and a bitter taste.

She is a very beautiful woman, and there are men queuing up to chase her in college. After work, I didn't make much progress, but she still felt proud. A beautiful and talented woman is often like this. Although I have elevated from liking her to loving her, I have always felt inferior to my poor family and have no courage to confess to this proud princess, even without any hint. Just like the song sings: Think of your beauty, my ordinary, silently walking away time and time again.

A year later, she became the daughter-in-law of our unit leader. I can imagine the pain in my heart, and six months later, I also got married. As an old classmate, I have always been in harmony with her and working together has been very enjoyable. She is a gentle and beautiful woman who lives happily with her husband. Whenever the heat wave of loving her hits my forehead, I will advise myself, love her, don't disturb her happiness, don't disrupt her stable life.

Just walk with her like this until she grows old. Some people say that secret love is the most humble mood in the world, but I have so greatly controlled myself, protected her peace and tranquility, and also given my wife a loyalty (at least she believes), but I feel that the realm of secret love has been elevated.

British psychologist Faust once said that secret love is actually very common, and it can be said that almost all adults have experienced the feeling of secretly loving or being secretly loved by others. Here, the reason why we say secret love is beautiful is because this emotion is only known to ourselves. We silently turn this emotion into wine, enjoy it alone, and let the emotion quietly emit a mellow fragrance in the seal. Perhaps it is precisely because of its beauty that so many married men and women who have come to understand give up on infidelity and weaken "extramarital love" into a secret love. Compared to cheating and damaging one's own and others' homes, secret love can indeed be considered a safe and worth promoting emotional management method.

However, emotional games in the world are always the most difficult to grasp. After all, due to emotions, it is very likely that a single blow cannot be stopped. The obsession with love often leads to the inability to control oneself. Whether it's playing alone or for two people, what you need to master is not doing nothing but not doing something, that's the realm. Once you violate the rules of the game, secret love can become a curse on your marriage, bringing endless pain and gloom. So, if you have a crush, it's best to give yourself a deadline of three months. For too long, over six months may make it a burden on marriage.

Romantic interludes in marriage

Chen Lili, 40 years old, accountant

We have been married to our husband for 10 years, and we regret it a bit. However, at my age, it's not suitable to say anything and have a child. Two people come out and in, living a familiar and familiar life. Everything is like a formula, and any new number that comes in is a calculation method. Every day at home, I don't feel in the mood to dress up. He can tell me what expression I am with his eyes closed. I don't want to dress up at work, they are all a group of young people who have been shouting and screaming, and no one cares if I am more beautiful today than yesterday.

Last year, the company sent him to work in an office in another city for 8 months. This was the first time he had left his life after getting married, and he felt very lonely alone. At first, I always went online, besides communicating with my husband, I just chatted with those boring people. Later, there was a new male colleague in the workplace who was 4 years older than me and started calling me "Lili" or "Lili". No one else cares, but I don't listen too kindly, it makes me feel much younger. There was a person of the same age who suddenly gained an attraction in his workplace. In the morning, he tossed and turned around looking for clothes, and only went out when he was satisfied. I seemed to feel a bit inexplicably happy, feeling particularly excited, and also very motivated in his work. I was in a good mental state and even got emotional after talking to my husband on the phone. He kept tossing a few disgusting words, which he hadn't enjoyed for several years. He was so flattered that he didn't know how to respond to my "passionate love". Finally, he booked a plane ticket for me, held flowers in his hand, and picked me up in a suit and shoes. This romantic move made other travelers think we were getting married on a "second marriage" trip. My husband said, 'How did you become happy?'? I didn't know how to answer for a moment, but privately thought, 'I should thank that' male colleague '. His arrival sparked my interest in life, alleviated my marital fatigue, and it can be said that it was a quiet secret love, filling an emotional void.'.