On the night of my marriage, I confessed a secret to my husband, but he never smiled at me five years after marriage.

"There's no way I can recover from breaking up with my husband. I don't know why, we've been having problems communicating.". Previously, due to family disputes, there was a divorce in the middle, which lasted for three years. This time, I really want to come back and divorce, but I love my daughter so much and don't want a divorce. But in the three years since the divorce, I have been doing my best. Last year, when he ignored me, I took care of his mother for a year and spent more than 10000 yuan of my own money.

Last year, when he came back for the New Year, he said he was moved. He stayed at home for half a year, and we had a good relationship, but we also quarreled twice because of a small matter. Later, he went out to Hebei for only half a month and asked me to go to work in Guangdong. I asked him to talk to his mother about not giving candy to the child. When his teeth were broken, he became angry and smashed his mobile phone and disappeared. Recently, he called me and said he would divorce if he thought it through. He said he had no money and only paid me a few thousand yuan. If he didn't agree, he would come back and sue for divorce three years later.

"I don't really want to leave, but there's no way to retrieve it. He doesn't communicate with me, and the phone number has blackmailed me.". If I left, I took care of his mother for a year and spent so much money. He only paid a little. I really feel wronged. What should I do?

His character is special mama bao. his mother believes everything she says. When I take care of my children at home, sometimes I have a little friction with his mother. I call him and he only helps his mother. In addition, his mother called him to complain if she had any opinion on me, which led to more and more resentment against me in his heart. In 2014, the child came back for divorce when he was eight or nine months old, and I went out to work without consent.

"Every time I come back and make up during the New Year, when I go out, he won't come with me, and if he doesn't talk to me on the phone for a moment, he ends up getting divorced again.". Our situation is that I am a junior college student and do procurement work. My personality is sometimes a bit stubborn. He was a junior high school student who worked in the north doing electric welding. He had one day off every month during his working hours, and worked more than 15 hours a day. He had a strong temper and was stubborn. "I can't hold on to such people, but as far as divorce is concerned, it doesn't matter how much compensation is paid. Now he hates me to the bone.".

Usually, we all quarrel over small matters and refuse to compromise with each other. Both parties are tired. Also, he has severe premature ejaculation. I don't know if this is causing him to have no need for me, so he has no feelings. "A little thing can pile up in his heart for many years, so the things that pile up are getting worse and worse for me.". "And I was too kind to him, and now he won't remember anything. Now all we have to say is argue, and no matter what I say, he will attack.".

"Now there's a divorce. At first, I didn't agree that he would compensate me for thousands of dollars, so he went missing. I couldn't help but send a message to all his friends and ask him to come out for a divorce. It's very embarrassing for him. He thinks I'm crazy.". "And before we quarreled, he liked to run away from home, so I was worried. He didn't answer me and made many phone calls, which made him even more annoyed. I already had a bad impression on him. Can't I ever turn around?"?

I would also like to add that before I got married, I gave birth to a son to a married man, and took him away after leaving the hospital. The man's wife gave birth to a daughter, but she didn't have to give birth, which is considered as borrowing me to give birth. "I didn't tell him about this until the night we got married, and he didn't talk to me for five or six days.". This hit him so hard that in the five years since he got married, he hasn't even laughed with me. Having a good laugh with others can also be a topic, but when you're with me, you never find a topic.

I am superior to him in terms of education, job, appearance, salary, and family conditions. I asked him to treat his premature ejaculation. He is also a second married person. His wife left after two months of marriage. He said that his ex-wife had been treated since she left, but the doctor said it would be okay if it didn't affect fertility, so he didn't treat her anymore.

reply:

Judging from your confidences, the likelihood of separation between you may be nine out of ten. In fact, the culprit that led to the breakdown of your marriage has been planted since the beginning of your marriage. "Because you weren't clean enough before marriage, and because you weren't honest enough before marriage, you ultimately buried the bitter fruit for yourself.". Buddhism says that good causes and good results. Reflect on whether this is the truth.

Obviously, both of you have hard wounds to each other, so when you get together, every time you see a problem with each other, it feels like a lump in your throat, making you feel uncomfortable and unpleasant. "You have to admit that all the arguments, unhappiness, contradictions, and grievances your husband has had against you, including the divorce with you after years of separation, separation, and cooperation, are actually accompanied by a grudge against your once unclean past. This is the problem. This is a knot that your husband cannot open, and it is also a barrier that no man can overcome.".

The reason why your husband and you have been together for more than five years is because he is well aware that his conditions and circumstances are not as good as yours. As you said, his second marriage, education, job, appearance, salary, and family conditions are not as good as yours, and he also suffers from premature ejaculation disease. Despite this, a man's instinctive sense of self-esteem can prompt him to maintain his face and dignity at any time. When marital conflicts escalate due to trivial matters in life, including the poor relationship between you and your mother-in-law's daughter-in-law, they will unconsciously knock on his fragile glass heart due to his inferiority complex, which he can no longer tolerate. This is also the reason why he insists on leaving you now, because he has been under too much pressure in this marriage, with no sense of happiness to speak of, and there is only suffering, helplessness, and pain.

In addition, it should be said that there has never been a basic sense of trust between you, especially when you confess your past unbearable secrets on your wedding night, this sense of trust has not been established. How does he hate you in his heart and think you are a super liar. Therefore, he has shown his deep hostility and dissatisfaction towards you by narrowing his smile and showing a cold eye in front of you for five years.

All that said, since the beginning was not straightforward enough, don't blame the ruthlessness of the end. If two people are so miserable together, why must they compromise!