Post Date December, 02 2023
On the night of the Chinese New Year's Eve, the loud firecrackers outside the window contrasted sharply with the desolate atmosphere at home, like a great satire on my failed marriage and life. At this moment of reunion, my husband is with another woman. At first, I thought with all my heart that he wouldn't divorce me for my junior, but on New Year's Eve, he didn't even live in his own house. What hope is there for my marriage?
My husband and I started dating in 2008 and got married in 2011. I now have a 2-year-old baby who was found cheating last December, and he admitted that they have been dating for four months. I thought as long as I gave him time, they would break up. He would come back and maintain this family with me, even for the sake of the child.
"I have had the idea of divorce before, but my husband has always disagreed. I thought he really didn't want to divorce. Today, on New Year's Day, he came back from his junior year and finally offered to divorce me.". He said that he didn't feel anything about me, and he didn't feel anything when he came back to this house every day. He didn't feel anything when he looked at anything, and he only thought about Xiao San. "He is now using his rhetoric to get me divorced, and regardless of the outcome, I am very sad. He is no longer the person he used to be, and I am starting to lose track of him.".
What should I do? The child is too young, and I really can't bear to let the child face this kind of life now. Now I feel that I gave birth to her, and I am too irresponsible for her. How can I make up for the trauma of the child's soul?
[Reply]
Hello friend, first of all, I would like to express my deep sympathy for your loneliness at home during this festive, peaceful, and family reunion Spring Festival when my husband accompanied my third child.
But when you think about it carefully, this is how feelings in the world work. They have a warm and pleasant side that makes people full of sweetness, while also having a ruthless and heartbreaking side. Emotion is a difficult thing to control and grasp. In other words, emotion is also a unreliable thing. What should we do? I think it is crucial to adjust our mindset in a timely manner. When love comes, we willingly accept and cherish it. When love goes away, we don't need to be overly attached and forced.
It can be seen that you are reluctant to give up this marriage, but for you, your husband can leave you on New Year's Eve and go to spend New Year's Eve with his little sweetheart. He also comes back on the morning of the first day of the lunar new year and voluntarily asks for a divorce with you. It can be seen that he has no nostalgia for you anymore, and you obviously have no place in his heart. On the contrary, Xiao San is full of joy in his heart. He is fully prepared to evacuate. In this situation, your relationship may have been difficult to retrieve. Even if you don't divorce, his heart is no longer with you. So what is the happiness of maintaining a marriage that remains intact and exists in name only?
Therefore, any sadness and self blame cannot solve practical problems now. The only thing to do is to face reality. You should be prepared to split up and consider the issue of property division between two people, protect your legitimate rights and interests, and then rely on yourself to strive for a better life. Men are actually unreliable, take good care of your children, and do not settle for and beg for marriage for their children, That does not exempt the child from harm, and it will lose their dignity. The best way to avoid harm to the child is to continuously give her responsible maternal love to the end. Although you may not be able to give the child a complete family, it is sufficient to have your unfailing maternal love and care. I think there will always be solutions, difficulties are temporary, and unhappiness in marriage also requires finding reasons from yourself. Summarize your shortcomings well, understand how to grow in life and marriage, constantly improve yourself, and be a strong woman with a strong heart. Only in this way can you let yourself lose miserably. In short, life favors the strong, and I hope you can regain happiness in life.
