Post Date December, 03 2023
A very interesting phenomenon is that men do not feel much when they travel or stay out for some reason. Once a woman goes out, she often "harbors evil thoughts". Although unlike women who deal with men, they call one after another, but they are also restless. People who can joke say this: The love between husband and wife is obvious, and the wife can't bear to leave for a night.
Men are all afraid of green hat. In fact, from a psychological point of view, this is the "insecurity" hidden in men's hearts. Let's call it "green hat phobia". This "instability" is to fear what happens to their wives behind their backs.
Research shows that women trust their husbands more than men trust their wives. This is consistent with real life - men can drink and play mahjong all night long, and then coax women away, while men often do not like this to women.
I once saw a case where a couple announced the dissolution of their marriage after three years of marriage. The reason for the divorce was that the husband was extremely distrustful of his wife. As soon as the wife went out, the husband would check her underwear. If he found that there were too many secretions, he would dig into the bottom and chase after her. Having lived in a tense atmosphere of suspicion for a long time, the strings of marriage finally broke before people's nerves broke.
Sexual behavior is an exclusive psychological and sexual behavior, which is bound to leave a large amount of secretions on his underwear. The husband's "virginity detection method" is straightforward, but he forgot that the increase of female lower body secretions stems from many aspects, including sexual activities (including sexual imagination), gynaecological diseases, intense physical exercise, and so on. "secretions" became the "substitute" of his distrust mentality, A psychological circle of "secretion"="derailment" has been formed.
There is also a typical behavior of "suspected wife" - showing strong aversion to the men around his wife. Colleagues, classmates, friends and even relatives, as long as they are men, get along with them more frequently, especially those who have more opportunities for his wife to mention, put him on the "blacklist", carry this "blacklist", accumulate depression into "green hat phobia", and spend time studying and arranging the contact frequency between his wife and these "suspicious objects" The venue and time are in a high state of vigilance and vigilance for a long time. They always feel that "there is such a thing", but they can't grasp the handle.
There are many reasons for the formation of such distrust as the extension of the virgin complex, but there are no more than several types:
First, because of the "virgin complex", the wife was "suspicious" when she got married, or it was very clear that she was not her first lover;
Second, remarried couples, both of whom have a history of marriage and have different degrees of "re love experience";
The third is the inferiority complex. This situation is usually caused by the extroverted character of the woman, who is much better than the man in her career and work;
The fourth is hearsay. I am troubled by the special examples around me. I heard that a woman has such experience, and I am always wary of her own people. Here, I say, these are unhealthy mentality.
As the saying goes, "heart disease needs heart medicine" and "cure the bell needs a person who tied the bell". Trust comes from the purity of the feelings of both parties, and also depends on the "calmness" of the individual's heart. There is a "hallucinatory" inference that you can refer to - you say there is it, you say there is nothing without it, then why not infer it as nothing?
The trainer of the zoo can still reach a tacit understanding with the beast. Why can't he have more trust with his legal spouse?
(Intern editor: Chen Hao)
