My wife and I had three rules before we got married, one of which was: we should not interfere too much in each other's friendship, let alone suspect or distrust each other. Simply put, she can have a blue confidant, and I can also have a red confidant.
For the understanding of 'confidante', her explanation is that a better friend of the opposite sex can talk without saying anything, share happiness together, and share pain with each other.
I said, since that's the case, what can you do with your iron buddies and be separated from your husband? The implication is that you slept with them? She said I was tempted and even asked me, 'Have all those girlfriends who are good with me ever had sex with me?'? In fact, each person has their own answer to this question, which is both privacy and secret.
To be honest, times have changed, and today's young people, especially those born in the 1980s and 1990s, are indeed open-minded about gender issues. Because most of them are only children, their lives and spiritual world are quite lonely, and many things cannot be communicated with their parents. They deeply desire to make friends. The various personality traits reflected from this are very obvious.
We are of the same age, so it is understandable to make friends. Can marriage and love be the same? Marriage is a relationship between two individuals, which requires mutual respect, loyalty, and selfishness. When in love, you can act recklessly, no one can control you, and you're not mentioned. After marriage, if you continue to be unrestrained, what do outsiders think and what do family members think?
We got to know each other at a bar, both of whom have a wide range of friends and enjoy socializing. After more than a year of dating, we got married. I don't think there's anything wrong with her proposal of a three chapter agreement. On the contrary, I quite agree with her on making friends. Everyone has a social circle, and if the other party guesses every day and checks their phones when they return home, how tiring it would be.
I think it's okay to understand your angle and position after getting married and have some convergence. On my birthday, there is also a group of girls coming to congratulate me. She accompanied her male colleagues to eat and drink alone, and even if they were drunk and carried home, I wasn't angry.
But once, it made me feel a bit jealous. We had an argument over some trivial matters, and she ran out of the house in a fit of pique without turning on her phone. At around 10 o'clock in the evening, she was completely drunk and was brought back by her often hanging "confidant". After I opened the door, he helped her lie on the sofa, looking very considerate.
Subsequently, he began to blame me and even asked if I was a man? Why did I argue with her, why didn't I protect her, why did I deliberately anger her, and did I know that today is her menstrual cycle? He said that men should know how to love their wives, she is not the servant I married back home.
That man and I have only met twice, once at my house where she invited him as a guest, and once at a coffee shop where I saw them alone. I don't want to know how deep the relationship between my wife and him is, and I have never inquired. But he dares to teach me a lesson directly at my house, and I already feel the weight of her in his heart. Even when he mentioned her 'physiological period' and 'servant', it reminded me that it was because of washing clothes.
The washing machine is already full, and she promised to go wash it. It's been four or five days and she hasn't started yet. I didn't even have the pants to change. After waking up from my afternoon nap, I told her, but she couldn't do it anymore. She always washes it, so I can't do it myself. That afternoon, I was also in a hurry to go out, so I spoke up. But instead of going to wash it, she ran out of the house first. As for the physiological period, I did overlook her coming those two days. Besides, what about that man who cares about these things? Later, there was the scene just now.
The next day, when she woke up, I only said that he had sent her home, not that he had taught me a lesson. I also asked her, how strong is your relationship? She said I can't control it, we have a three chapter agreement. I won't ask then, but in the future, I need to pay attention to the impact and not let others take a shit bowl on my head.
Later, she may have asked him what he said, and soon, she took the initiative to tell me that they were college classmates and had a pure friendship. When they were in school, they were from the same hometown and he was a senior, taking care of him like a big brother. Later, they both returned to their hometown for development, and their relationship never stopped. She said that he is very kind and a "friend of women" in women's hearts. He has many female friends, and she is just one of them. Although he is not married yet, he is a very polite person.
In addition, I also know that my wife and a male colleague in the workplace are very hot, and they are also her confidants. My wife said that men praise her for being super cute because she is very delicate, so many people are willing to recognize her as a younger sister, and she has many older brothers.
Unlike my wife, I also have some of my best friends of the opposite sex. But I haven't exposed it yet. Some of them are married, and some are still single. I also really want to have the purest friendship with them, to be a beauty. But men can never do it. We both have sex, but the distance is not that close. We both know that it cannot be at the cost of destroying marriage and happiness.
That is to say. My beauties are not my lover, not my ordinary friends. But she has a higher level of friendship and is not as complex as a lover's relationship, but she deeply loves each other. In my opinion, a confidant is a 'sexual friendship' and a 'wife' who cannot get married.
My wife just answered the phone and was about to leave. She said it was him who called and he had something to discuss with her. But today I noticed that she cleaned her lower body before going out, and she had her "period" two days ago. I said with a hint of sarcasm, I remember it was your "physiological period" today. Don't neglect your "physiological hygiene". She gave me a blank look and said I was insulting her. I wish you had a clear mind.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)