Post Date December, 03 2023
Later, you really understood that loving someone very much can be different from happiness. "You've really learned that promises are easy, but achieving them is difficult.". The decision is easy, but the next wait is the most difficult. You have finally learned to wait only for the person who will also wait for you. Don't repeat your steps in life anymore. If you repeatedly get hurt in a relationship, and if you repeatedly wait, it's not the person you should wait for.
Not every separation has enough reasons
When all the people advise you to open up a bit, you can come out of that sad scene earlier. "But you can't find the reason you can think of. You worked hard but still couldn't figure it out, so you've been lost and can't get out.".
From the moment he proposed to break up, you began to walk into different time and space - he continued to move forward, but you walked back... You began to walk into the past, flipping through the beautiful memories of what he had said, you stared at the evidence that he had loved you, and clearly the hearts that were already armed softened
"You began to believe that he was just confused for a while, until the courage that you had gained after despair, and then lowered your head countless times, had all worn away.". Your wish is really small enough to have only one left: you hope he can give you a reason - a reason why he no longer loves you.
"You hope he can speak clearly. You are taught with an open mind, and you are not afraid of being hurt, because you really need a sufficient reason so that you can leave with that reason.". Finally, you received his answer as if you had received a gift. You thought you would be very sad, but you didn't; You thought you could move forward from here, but neither did you. "You suddenly think this way again: Since you all know the reason, as long as you work hard to improve, this relationship should be able to be retained.".
"In the next few years, you have gradually lost your dignity and self-confidence, and your desires continue to shrink, just like you in this relationship are so humble. Your current desire is really simple enough to only need that reason - a reason that can make you hate him.".
"You're so reluctant to part with me, how can you get together and disperse?"?! "You can't forget it, how can you possibly let it go forever?"?! So you choose to destroy that love and expect to witness his unrequited feelings with your own eyes. Only by letting yourself hate him can you completely give up.
"You didn't succeed in destroying that love, and the reasons you received never really convinced you. That was a period of later depression in your heart. Your heartbreak always occurred at the moment when you thought about why the dyke broke, and you felt very aggrieved. Why could his love words be so true, but they were destroyed in a flash?"?! Why do you fall in love when he doesn't even bother to give you a real reason in the end.
The only fact is that he's leaving you
That was the obsession hell we all fell into, and it was our own hard practice. It took you a long time to suddenly see clearly in those days of fire and waves:
He can give you a hundred reasons, but the only fact is that he wants to leave you.
A person who wants to leave, why should he love you? Why should he conceive a perfect reason that can make you not sad? And for you, for a person who cherishes love, how can there be a reason in the world that can make you not sad?
"Those who are struggling for answers in their separation do not really want to let go of it, but rather want to leave the other person behind.". "And we can never really retain anyone, we can only retain ourselves, and then decide whether to strive for a better path next, or to continue to grieve with the reasons he left for you?"?
Why do you want to continue to be sad when he has already walked away?!
No matter what reason he gives you, you will accept it, but you don't have to accept it. For any reason, it just makes him walk more comfortably; For any reason, it only hurts you once again. The only reason you believe in it is that he doesn't want it, whether it's because he's not suitable or just because he was lonely at the beginning, you won't spend any more time researching it.
People who no longer walk together should not be allowed to interfere with your life in any form.
I really understand that love cannot be forced
"You won't force yourself to let go, you'll take it with you, because every emotion you once had with your heart has parts that are worth remembering later.". You won't force yourself to bless because your own happiness is more important, and that's what you should strive for. You won't force yourself to forget, because what will make us better is not forgetting, but knowing more about who we truly fit and who we love.
Maybe he really let you down. Perhaps there is really no right or wrong in this relationship. So at the very least, it shouldn't be your fault because he left; At the very least, there is no need to suspect that you are the wrong person for his reasons.
Not every game has enough reasons to separate. For a person who wants to leave, even if he gives you a hundred reasons, you won't waste time thinking. What you really want in your life and want to share every precious moment of your life is the person who is willing to entrust your life to you. That is the most important thing for you from this moment on.
