My wife's secret of five years is hurting our marriage. I can't believe the fact before me

My wife and I are in the same school, a flower of the school, and I have many pursuits around me. I chased them for a long time, but failed to qualify. After graduation, I met her again at a classmate's party. Hearing that she was not married, I felt a burst of joy. I found out that her work place is not far from me. I ask her out for dinner almost every day after work. I can save some money for the salary of the previous month. Since I contacted her, I have become a moonlight clan.

Fortunately, Kung Fu didn't disappoint those who wanted to. She accepted me, and we decided on the wedding date and got married. After five years of marriage, she gave birth to a daughter for me, and I gave her and her children as babies. Since she got married, I have let her stay at home and never go to work again. In order to live a good life for my family, I also worked two jobs and had a happy home. Later, my wife saw that I worked hard and opened an online shop to earn some living expenses. The life of a family of three was quite satisfactory. An easy and happy day, because a wife's notebook was completely broken.

The house was a second-hand house that our parents bought for us before we got married. It was a little old. I cleaned it up a little and moved in. I have saved some money in the past two years. I want to renovate it. All the miscellaneous things in my family have been moved to my parents. My parents vacated a room for three of us. After the house was decorated, I let my wife and children stay at home. I found a porter and moved in the previous things. When I was sorting things out, I found a notebook, which was particularly inconspicuous. It was a common hard leather notebook.

I opened it and found that it was a note written by my wife. I flipped over a few pages, but saw a few harsh words: "I am pregnant, but the child is not my husband's, I am very sorry...". I was stunned, and continued to read it carefully. It records her love and breakup with her college boyfriend, as well as her marriage and birth with me. But after marriage, she contacted her ex-boyfriend again and cheated during marriage, The child is not mine. She knows this very well, but she never told me! I am surprised that my children, who have been raised for many years, have nothing to do with me. Nobody can accept it.

I endured this humiliation and picked up the child after cleaning up. I want to confirm whether the child is mine or not. It is said on the Internet that paternity testing only needs hair. I did it in this way, and the result disappointed me. It has nothing to do with me. My thoughts can be traced back to a few years ago. When my wife was pregnant, I was happy to lose sleep, but she looked absent-minded and cautious. Now I think she was guilty. Now I don't know how to speak. My daughter is naive and lovely, and I can't bear to let go. I can think that she and other men have children, and I have to raise them. I feel angry in my heart. What should I do?

Reply from the consultant:

In the final analysis, both of you are responsible for this matter. Before marriage, you did not know whether the previous relationship of the other party has been completely ended. You just blindly pursued your wife, and did not realize her psychological feelings, let alone her emotional changes. But your wife, after getting married, did not abide by the law of women and kept in touch with her predecessor, which was really annoying. Anyway, things have come out. You should learn to accept them.

Calm down first, and recall the past few years of marriage. Are you happy? If this kind of day is what you want, but this kind of thing has become an obstacle between you, I suggest you calm down and talk to your wife. Maybe she didn't have no feelings for you, but she just lost her head and did such a thing. The child is innocent, and you must have feelings for her, but how the child handles it depends on your own inner thoughts. I wish you happiness.