Post Date December, 03 2023
My wife and I have been married for five years. We only knew each other half a year before we became pregnant, and then we got married. Over the past five years or so, I have often quarrelled due to different personal opinions. However, considering that marriage has not come easily, it is no longer easy to find women if I want to divorce. Because I have no money or career, I am just an ordinary worker in a factory, and I have not met good women. I also have a house for my daughter, so I cannot divorce after thinking about it.
"But now, my wife doesn't listen to my suggestions. She sleeps in all day and doesn't get up until eight or nine o'clock. She doesn't even do housework when she gets up, so she goes out and does her unprofitable business at a loss. I told her to find a job and work for at least a stable income. She has found several companies, and each one stops working for a day. The next day, she runs to the vegetable market to sell flowers. She tries hard to persuade her to go to work, and she quarrels with me. If she doesn't have any money to spend, she quarrels with me again.", "I pay the mortgage at home alone, and she still asks me for money to buy this and that. If she doesn't pay, she won't let me touch her at night. Do you have a wife like this?"? "I have been asked to cook, wash dishes, and wash clothes all day after work. If she doesn't like it, she quarrels with me. She won't let me touch her for a month, doesn't sleep with me, and she's separated from me, sleeping in separate beds. As a normal 30-year-old man, how can I be subjected to such humiliation? What should I do, teacher?"?
reply:
At the beginning, this woman was chosen by herself, and when she got married, she also decided to marry herself. Therefore, after marriage, all kinds of disappointments can only be tolerated. If you don't want to accept them, you can only stay away from each other. However, you don't have the courage to leave each other, so what can you do? You can only tolerate them!
The key is that you don't have the ability to transform your wife. I dare to ask, what position do you have in this family? "She can't earn money, doesn't do housework, even has to do the dishes, cooking, washing clothes, and even impose sexual punishment on you. What happiness can you have with such a woman?"? If what you say is true, then your constant accommodation and compromise with her is undoubtedly indulgence, which will only make her more disrespectful and take you seriously.
As a strong and vigorous man, enduring this humiliation really makes people feel a bit helpless, so it requires you to show enough courage to face up to yourself and examine your marriage. What couples need is mutual respect, tolerance, and understanding, rather than ignoring each other's existence, blindly balancing each other and demanding from each other. If there is no bottom line and principle between couples to harm each other, then there is no need for this marriage to exist and cherish.
For this reason, as a man, you should learn to maintain your minimum dignity in this marriage, have a bit of backbone, don't be too scrupulous, and don't just lament and complain there like a wounded woman. Otherwise, you can only be infinitely passive in this marriage, enduring humiliation and humiliation indefinitely. Finally, even your daughter will look down upon you. Stop making excuses for yourself and take practical actions to safeguard your dignity!
