Post Date April, 15 2023
My wife is 83 years old. I am one year older than her. We have a 3-year-old daughter. Life is not very rich, but we also have no worries about food, clothing, and car loans.
A family that looks very harmonious outside actually has a difficult lesson to read. The reason is that our sexual life is not harmonious. If we are not afraid to laugh, we can buy a box of TT and use it for several months. Every time I want to make love, she either pretends to sleep or shows a very annoying expression, and most of the intimacy is my initiative, because a week without making love as a normal person is really unbearable, she generally continues to pretend to sleep and sometimes can really sleep, let me toss and turn on the top. Every time I make love like this, I feel very empty, like facing an inflatable doll. After several times like this, I don't have much interest. Sometimes I feel guilty. Will I take my wife as the object of vent? But it's really hard to hold for a week or two. I also want to have a good talk with her about this issue, but every time she talks about this topic, she is always so impatient. Finally, she said what's wrong with me, is it not to meet you? I said that sex is very important to husband and wife's life. She said that my mind is full of sex, ML.
It's true that I feel very depressed now, and I feel very angry when I think about it at work. Why can't I have what other normal families can have, and I can't concentrate on work. Last night, I said that you should take the initiative to get up and down my body position. At first, I pretended to sleep, but later I said that I was tired of it. She rode me down with resentment. To be honest, her bed skills were very bad, which made my JJ very painful, and she didn't have much pleasure. I am comfortable with how to communicate with her. I am comfortable with you, but I can't communicate with her. The 30-year-old highly educated person doesn't know what Yin Di is. In retrospect, she was very opposed to me touching her part with her finger. She didn't know that was the exciting point. Another was that she felt that it was indecent to do that and played a rogue. The other was that she couldn't even mention it. Even taking a bath together, she felt that it was wrong. There is also a very strange phenomenon. She often feels urgent to urinate and needs to go to the toilet every time she makes love. For a time, I suspected that my wife was frigid, but it didn't seem to be frigid. I would take the initiative once or twice a year. Am I incompetent? Can I bring my wife to orgasm, or am I too lustful?
I've been asking myself these days whether I don't care enough about her, but I won't refuse her if she gives me the chance to care. The problem is that I don't know where to care about her. She is a cold person, except for her daughter. On the contrary, she will at least appear indifferent to me. We both lack a feeling. For me, the husband and wife life like chicken ribs has no feeling of love. For her, the husband and wife life can still live.
I feel that this kind of situation happened after giving birth to a child, especially the abortion six months ago, does it have a shadow on her heart?? Ask someone who came here. Once, I couldn't help it. I solved it by myself when I looked at her indifference. For a man in his 30s, my wife was beside the bed. I felt very poor. Now I see other beautiful and plump women will have a strong reaction. I'm afraid I will make mistakes or do things wrong to my wife. I talked with my wife several times, and she said that every time I think of ML, I get bored. I want to ask someone who has come here how I can save our relationship. I'm living in a tangle now.
This is the current painful situation of a netizen. Obviously, this is a typical case of disharmonious sexual life between husband and wife. There are many reasons for the wife's frigidity. First of all, we should determine whether it was such frigidity before the birth of children? If not, there may be some physiological and psychological changes after the birth of the child. At this time, you need to consult with relevant experts.
Of course, it may also be that her feelings for you have changed. First of all, you need to reflect on whether you are not doing well enough? Do you care enough about your wife and family? Generally speaking, couples have harmonious feelings, few have disharmonious sexual life, and at least their wives can sleep during sex. In addition to work, we should spend more time with our wives and children to go out and play, and help us do more housework at home to cultivate our feelings. There is another possibility that your wife's mind is no longer with you.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
