My wife has been infertile for many years, and her temperament has changed greatly. She has repeatedly beaten and scolded me, and I have suffered indescribably and betrayed my marriage

My wife and I have gone through a five-year love journey, a three-year marriage, from having nothing to owning a house and a car now. I thought we could live a lifetime of happiness like this, but time has played a joke on me. The changes after my wife's marriage have made me suffer unbearably.

During our college years, we fell in love, and along the way, her care for me was in my eyes and in my heart. In the first year of graduation, my mother was seriously ill, and that period was my darkest day. I am the only son in my family, and I have to return to my hometown to take care of my family when they are sick. I turned my back on my family, she went to work in a big city alone, and we became long-distance lovers. Originally, I thought our fate was over. It was her who comforted me with a phone call every day, sent me gifts from time to time, and gave me strength to walk through this gloomy day.

A year later, my mother recovered under my careful care. I took my backpack to the city where my girlfriend works. After that, I swore to marry her and love her well. After several years of hard work, our family urged us to get married. At the age of twenty seven or eight, it was indeed the time to start a family, so my wife and I held a wedding and started our marriage journey.

When I was in love, I didn't have any pressure. After getting married, the pressure of buying a house and a car made me feel overwhelmed. I no longer look forward to the monthly salary. Coincidentally, my friend has a good project and wants to hire me as a partner, which looks promising from a perspective. I quit my stable job and started my own business.

Starting a business is very difficult, with over ten hours of busyness every day, which makes me physically and mentally exhausted. At this critical moment, my wife became pregnant. When the child arrives at this time, they will definitely suffer with us. What I mean is not yet. My wife had a fight with me and ran out. Later, I received news that she had been hit by a car. The child had passed away, and my wife's leg was also broken. She spent several months in the hospital recuperating. Since then, I dare not provoke her anymore, and everything goes according to her.

Strange to say, since that time, she has never been able to conceive again. Even if she finally got pregnant, she accidentally passed away. Before and after, three children were lost. In May this year, I took her to the hospital for examination. The doctor's diagnosis is that her chances of getting pregnant are very low, as the first miscarriage caused her to have a habitual miscarriage. In this way, our relationship shattered, and she hated me, saying that I had caused her to be unable to conceive.

From then on, she ignored me, didn't cook, didn't clean up, didn't share a room with me, and went too far by finding fault all day, beating and scolding me. I was disheartened by her and our marriage. I had an affair with a young girl who was outgoing and gave me a lot of happiness. Only by being with her can I relax.

When I confessed my infidelity to my wife, she didn't react too aggressively. She calmly signed the divorce agreement and shared our property, so she disappeared into my life. I obtained a certificate from that young girl and she moved to my house. That day when I cleaned the room, I saw a notebook and opened it to see my wife's diary, which recorded every bit of our love and marriage.

Upon seeing that paragraph, I burst into tears and wrote in my diary, "My impulse made me shed our child. I couldn't have children for him, and I felt guilty about him. I cursed and shouted at him just to make him give up on me. Seeing him find his home again, I could also leave with peace of mind..." After reading it, I couldn't express my sadness in my heart. It turned out that all of this was intentional, and I had wronged her. Now that I am remarried, I always think of my ex-wife's sad face and insomnia every night. I apologize to her and cannot forgive myself. What should I do?

reply:

Your ex-wife is a dignified and accomplished woman. At the moment she learned that she cannot conceive life and leave it for you, she chose her own way of being a bad person, disappointing you with her and helping you start a new life. Her selfless spirit is truly shocking. Looking back, it is you who truly led your marriage to the extreme.

If you say something stimulating like taking away your child for the sake of your own career, it will lead to her emotional excitement and accidents. When she targets you with a violent temper, you release yourself through infidelity instead of communicating with your wife to open her heart. It's probably too late to regret now. What you can do now is not to disturb your ex-wife's life. If you can't let go of your conscience, silently care for her. Find a suitable time to apologize to your ex-wife, and blaming yourself for not taking action is like a waste of time. Good luck to you.