Post Date December, 03 2023
I came to work in Sanya in 2001 and met my current wife during my work. On March 29th, 2002, we officially fell in love. In May 2003, we started a business together and opened an internet cafe. We bought a house in 2007 and had a grand wedding in 2008. After marriage, the wife became pregnant as planned, and then didn't want to see her suffer when she bought a car during pregnancy.
Everything is so natural. After my son was born, most of them were brought by me. I love my wife so much. Later, when my son went to kindergarten, my wife went out and started her own business.
It wasn't until February 2015 that I found out she was cheating. "That man is a guest of our Internet cafe. He came to Sanya for a tour at the age of 20. In 2005, my wife was 24 years old, and I was 26 years old.". In 2005, they met twice in an internet cafe, and then the man went home.
According to my wife's honest confession now, they have been chatting and feeling better since then. The man has loved her since then and has loved her until now. During this time, he has been working hard for my wife, working two jobs, and knowing that after my wife and I got married, he did something stupid. He already had severe kidney disease, and he also drank more to torture himself.
Later, he had no choice. Two years later, he found a woman to marry, but he never forgot my wife. Because his wife and his mother were incompatible, they divorced after six months of marriage. After the divorce, he and my wife became closer.
For ten years, he and my wife have not had much contact but have never been disconnected. Until October 2014, when he came to Sanya again for a tour, he contacted my wife, and my wife accompanied him to several scenic spots behind my back. She didn't come home until late at night. After this time, their contact has become even stronger.
In February 2015, my wife went on a business trip to Hangzhou for only two days, and for the remaining three days, my wife lied to me about investigating clothing in Hangzhou. In fact, she asked the man to go to Hangzhou to pick her up for his hometown's county seat and spent three days alone. I've known since then. Then I began to quarrel with my wife, who admitted everything and said that they loved each other deeply. "And I haven't had the kind of feeling that made her move in 14 years.".
"Now that I have found true love, because I have loved her for 14 years, everything I have done is too much. She feels guilty and sorry for me, but she can't stand the feelings between her and him, even though they have only met four times in 14 years.". That's all the time.
On December 28th, I had a conversation with her, and she said that she would have a good time with me, but after the conversation, they contacted in the afternoon. The wife said that she was in a bad mood. The man immediately booked a flight ticket and arrived in Sanya from Hangzhou in the evening. On December 29th, they met and had lunch together. In the afternoon, the man returned.
Later, years later, I learned about it, and I made it even worse. My wife said to be nice to me. "But I still couldn't put it down. I contacted again later and I learned about it.". It's noisy again. It's been 40 days now. Her parents also intervened. Don't want us to divorce, say she. She told her parents to have a good time with me. "But last night we opened our hearts and talked, and she said she couldn't let him go and wanted to give up her marriage and find her child. My wife, from Sanya, is a man from Zhejiang who is four years younger than my wife.". My wife is 34 years old this year. She also knows that she will regret it after divorce, but she says she regrets that she also loved, even if she divorced again. Because after all, they didn't get along in reality. I've been messing around repeatedly and it doesn't work.
I really don't want to lose my wife now. I don't know what to do, I want to go to extremes. "For the time being, she has broken up with him. She lied that her parents wanted to break up and interfere.". The man said he hated my wife to death, and he also said he would go to extremes. My wife is worried about him. Also very worried about me, because of the child. That's why I had a true heart to heart conversation last night, and I still can't let go of this relationship. I want to get along with him. Give up marriage.
I'm about to collapse. Help me. I can't persuade her to turn back. I feel that their relationship is very immature because there are too many practical problems. My wife knows all this. But my wife's attitude has been much better lately. The heart is still there.
Re:
An apple with a rotten heart, with a red and colorful appearance, looks tempting, but it's hard to swallow. This is your marital status. Knowing that her heart is no longer with you, you cannot let go.
She hesitates, perhaps not because of your hard work, but because she also understands that following him will suffer in the future, and even if she wants to form a family with him, she also clearly understands that she wants to abandon her child, will his family accept her, will she regret it in the future, will he really love himself for a lifetime... These are all the reasons why she hesitates.
Therefore, you cannot stop a moth that is willing to pounce on the fire regardless of its life. Even if you pounce on the fire, she will feel that her life has lost its meaning ever since.
"You protect her from luxury and exile, but she just loves the warmth of earth shaking.". In love, this is the case. People who pay more often are ignored and abandoned. Stop your overprotection of her and let her get along with her as much as possible. At present, the matter of taking care of children can be left to her as much as possible. The more tired she feels about her child, the deeper her love for her child becomes.
When her mother is taken over to live for a while, parents generally try their best to persuade her to make peace.
In addition, no matter how hard she pleaded, she never agreed to divorce. Once she relaxed, it was like letting her see a spark of hope.
If, as far as you can, she still misses him, then in the end, even if you don't want to, she will throw herself into his arms regardless of anything. It's not worth doing anything stupid for someone who doesn't love you.
Perhaps one day, she will eventually understand that the best love is always thin water flowing long and clear water. After experiencing the grinding of gravel, careful taste will bring sweetness from the heart.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
