The thing is, my wife has an affair, and I think I am the more vulnerable one. My wife and I met on a blind date three years ago, and after discussing for six months, we got married because we had children. After having children, life became dull.
In July of this year, I discovered that she had an affair. At that time, due to her child, she chose to stay and broke off her relationship with that person. Although she stayed behind, her heart remained with that person. She said that that person was her true love and emphasized that she didn't love me, just for the sake of the child.
Now we look good on the surface, but we don't have a married life. She doesn't live happily and I feel uncomfortable. Do I want a divorce? Is there a better way? She said she wouldn't divorce and asked me to find a mistress, but I didn't want to do that.
As far as you're concerned, did you and your wife get married as a child? Being together for half a year and entering a marriage is equivalent to a flash marriage. This marriage may lack a foundation of love from the beginning, and the foundation is not solid. How can the future marriage not shake the ground.
After your wife's infidelity, she will not return to her heart and confess to you that she no longer has true love for you, and the one who truly loves you is that person. It shows that she has already lost her heart to you, and the only reason she doesn't want to divorce you is for the sake of her child. There is a superficial relationship between you, and without the basic reality of a husband and wife, it is the current situation of existence in name only. Even, your wife has put forward a bizarre suggestion that you should also go to the mistress, which shows how bad your current marital situation is.
Since marriage has fallen to this extent, why should we let the two people suffer so happily? You should know that if the marriage between two people has already broken down, letting go is the best way to achieve it. Why should we compromise? How can children have happiness and happiness in such a marriage?
So, in order to maintain the integrity of the marriage, it is necessary to find ways to repair the marital relationship and ensure that the couple's relationship has a normal trajectory. Otherwise, surviving in a virtual marriage can only cause mutual harm and delay.