Post Date April, 15 2023
I'm a civil servant, and I can't stand to die or starve to death. I feel sick and hypocritical when I watch my colleagues go around the leader like a pug all day for promotion. Or maybe I'm so dutiful that I've been working for 15 years, and I'm still an ordinary employee. I really don't envy, envy and hate those who have become section-level cadres before joining the work with me, but I feel that I have no official, Especially when I see that many people have become prisoners because of bribery in the news, I feel that it is the most correct choice to stick to plain.
The reason why my wife was willing to marry me was that I was a thin and handsome young man before marriage. Although I was not liked by rich people, the grassroots women still lined up. Because I was introverted, I was often slow or intuitive about feelings. I was deeply moved by my wife's warm and generous, immaterial love view, and the wife's beauty, so we fell in love quickly and married and had children.
Or maybe my wife always scolds me for my dull career; Or maybe after paying off the mortgage and car loan, I had a bucket waist after eating and drinking without pressure, and my wife always scolded me for being a pig; Or maybe my wife scolded me for being disabled because of my laziness to exercise, unreasonable eating habits, sleep habits and age growth. These are within my tolerance.
Occasionally, when I feel unhappy, I will feel that it is really not easy for me to live all my life. I also have the pessimistic idea of dying. Facing the solemnity of life and all kinds of nostalgia in the colorful world, I will live a miserable life.
In the face of my wife's nose and eyes, I have asked myself 'do I love my wife' many times. I haven't got a positive answer yet, but I am grateful for what my wife has done for the family these years.
My wife used to be just an ordinary insurance company employee. At the wedding, my parents wanted me to find a woman with a formal job, but a woman with a formal job needed a house. My parents are pure farmers. They have emptied all their savings for me to go to college. How can I have the heart to let my parents borrow money from all directions to prepare for my house sale?
Now, my wife has become a regional manager of an insurance company with her own aggressiveness and competence, and her income is several times that of me. However, there are more and more social engagements, and the smell of dust is becoming more and more intense. But in my eyes, my wife is not too special, so I also turn a blind eye.
To my surprise, a few days ago, my wife invited several big local bosses to visit my home. I naturally became the chef plus nanny and waitress, and my wife commanded and shouted at any time. After drinking, my wife flirted with those people at the bottom of my eyelids, and finally dragged two people into my bedroom.
I didn't know where I had the courage at that time. I picked up the rolling pin and rushed into the bedroom and beat the two shameless men. They left my house in a disheartened manner. Before leaving, they still disdained to say to me that your wife has been up in this way over the years. Why are you angry now.
After hearing what they said, my heart seemed to be dripping blood. If my wife really depended on evil ways, I would rather not have such a marriage. What makes me sad is that I am so eager to live a simple life, but when I reach middle age, I have met with marital robbery. Facing my wife's sobbing and begging for mercy when she was awake, where should I go?
Reply:
After so many years of marriage, you let your wife down on three things:
1、 The average performance of a man in his career is a hard wound.
Women don't need men's wealth and wealth, but they need to see that men have an enterprising spirit. Your performance at work directly reflects your performance in marriage. You are lazy, muddle along, lack self-confidence, don't understand romance, and selfish, which is in sharp contrast to your wife's enthusiasm for family. No matter how capable a woman is, she needs to find a broad shoulder to lean on when she is tired, but you don't have the responsibility.
2、 Women also need men to have a strong and sexy figure.
The love between people always has its purpose. When you say that your wife was not greedy for money or social status, you must have some characteristics that attracted her. This characteristic comes from your thin and handsome. It is just the reincarnation of life, which makes you lose the figure that once made your wife unable to stop under the condition of "corrupt diet". Don't think you can do what you want when you get married. Men should also learn to control their body weight, which is not only good for the eyes, but also good for the body.
3、 Women want men to be strong in sex.
Although sex life is usually not done in general, it is because we are relatively reserved people. If we are not honest, it is not important. Now people's living standards have improved, and health status should be included in the scope of personal attention. As middle-aged men, they should not lose interest in sex prematurely.
As for your wife's position in the social arena, it is also an objective fact. Betrayal shows dissatisfaction with you. Ask a man who wants to have a career without a career, a body without a body, and a bed without a bed. What is the chip that can make a woman loyal to you?
Don't attribute the mistakes of others' betrayal of marriage to the cheating itself. It's time for you to reflect on yourself, otherwise what can you do after divorce?
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
