I am an only child, and the superior family conditions allow me to live without any pressure. "I have always been a clother since I was a child. During school, I never worried about not spending enough on my living expenses. As long as I didn't have money, I would care for my parents. My parents doted on me too much, and my ability to take care of myself was very poor. I couldn't even wash clothes after going to college.". Every time I go home, I always bring a large bag of dirty clothes with me, but they never criticize me. I gradually develop the habit of laziness.
After graduating from college, my classmates were busy looking for jobs. I didn't have any feeling at all. I always felt that my father was capable. I didn't lack money and didn't need to work so hard. "My college girlfriend couldn't stand my lack of ambition, so she resolutely parted hands.". During the period of brokenhearted love, I hid at home frustrated, locked myself in the house all day, and played games when I was bored. After holding it for several months, I also realized that I cannot rely on my parents all my life. They will always grow old that day, and I cannot afford to sit on my laurels. My father entrusted someone to find me a job as an accountant. He wanted to train me and help him manage finance in the future.
"At first, I worked very hard and was very serious, but 'Every man stumbles, every horse stumbles.' One mistake, I made a mistake and was severely scolded by our boss. I felt that I had hurt my self-esteem, had a big fight with him, and left with my son.". My parents were very disappointed with me and thought it was time to find a woman to take care of me. Subsequently, I was arranged for a blind date, and I didn't refuse. Having been lovelorn for so long, I also wanted to have a home.
When I first met my wife, I was fascinated by her long hair and a good girl. She also had a good feeling for me. After several contacts, we established our relationship and soon got married. After getting married, I found a new job, still an accountant, and I wanted to get up from where I fell.
After marriage, my bad habit of laziness made my wife very dissatisfied, and she despised my job even more. She believed that men should have ambition and not be content with the status quo. She asked me to change my job and work hard on my own, instead of living such an easy life. For this reason, we often quarrel every day without being in the same dimension. Later, she proposed to have a child, and she felt that with children, I would have the motivation to venture.
"I agreed, but it went against my wishes. The matter of having a child didn't go smoothly. Later, we went to have an examination and found that there was a problem with my aspect and I couldn't have a child.". "I simply collapsed. Instead of comforting me, my wife directly proposed a divorce, and in a fit of anger, I signed a divorce agreement.". "After my divorce, I felt depressed and resigned from my job, feeling hopeless in life.". Half a year later, my parents found me a second married woman. They said that divorced women are better at managing their families. For me, it doesn't matter what kind of woman I am.
In this way, my parents spent 200000 yuan on a betrothal gift and married her back to our family. Her appearance is far inferior to that of my first wife, but her character is better than that of my first wife. After getting married, everything returned to normal. I went out again to look for a job, and there was a woman at home who also had concerns in my heart. It was great. However, less than two months after getting married, she told me she was pregnant. I felt as if I had been shocked by an electric shock. "I reached out and slapped her. She looked puzzled when I hit her. I said, 'I can't bear any children. Where did you come from?'"
At this point, she was shocked by my statement, and it turned out that she didn't know my situation from beginning to end. Before getting married, she was pregnant with the child of an adulterous ex-husband and didn't want to kill it. After remarriage, she wanted to hide it, but she didn't want me to be an infertile man. This was a joke to me. I filed for a divorce and told her to get out of the house.
"My parents disagreed, and my mother said, 'Anyway, the marriage has already ended, so it's like you adopted a child. Isn't it a well-known thing that you want to make you barren?'" I collapsed and felt that my parents were so strange. ". I don't know what to do. Can't I afford to be treated like this and cheated like this? What should I do? Should I divorce this marriage?
Two marriages have not been very smooth for you. "Your lack of effort has caused your first wife to abandon you, causing parents to worry about you and choose another wife for you regardless of cost. However, the pregnancy of your second married wife is a blow to you who cannot have children.". "Your wife shouldn't have concealed her pregnancy and your marriage, but your family also concealed the fact that you can't have children. The deception of both parties makes you feel that you can't be loved.".
Looking back, in your current situation, if you don't start a family or start a career, your parents will always worry about you. Although your mother's words sound very unpleasant, they are also stating the fact that you will eventually grow old one day, with many children around you and more dependence. Of course, if you can't accept this kind of thing, you can choose the path of divorce. Before divorce, you must consider it clearly. Adults should have a certain amount of courage and can no longer be willful and let their parents worry.