Post Date December, 03 2023
It has been seven years since my husband and I met and got married, and now we have a son. Our relationship has been very good. This year, my husband has been busy with business, leaving early and returning late. He comes back after two or three o'clock every day, and there was nothing wrong at first. However, at the beginning of this year, when I checked my husband's phone, I found a woman who frequently texted him on the phone. Based on the intuition of the woman, I felt something was wrong, I asked my husband if he had an affair. At first, he didn't admit it and said I was being suspicious. Later, he said he didn't have any feelings for me and wanted to divorce me. Then, I thought the child was so young and refused. Then, he said he could either ignore his affairs or get divorced, and I never asked him about it. Today, my husband asked me to help him pay his phone bill, and I realized that he has over 200 phone bills per month, which is only a few days this month, He has already used up hundreds of phone bills. I called my husband and asked who he was in contact with, but he said there was no explanation or he would either get divorced.
I hardly communicate with my husband now. He comes back at two or three o'clock every night, sometimes he doesn't come back, or he goes on a business trip. When I call him, he either says he's busy or ignores me. He always carries his phone number when he comes home, even when he takes a shower or restroom. I'm afraid I'll have to look at him. This kind of life has been going on for four months, and now I realize that he has a lot of phone calls, and I'm very confused!
We have known each other for seven years and been married for three years. Am I currently experiencing the pain of the seven year itch? Why do men go bad after getting married and having children? The previous vows of eternal love have all become fleeting memories. Seven years of love, it can be said that if you don't love, you won't love
Ms. Wang:
You can no longer satisfy your husband's desires. When you still stand at that breakpoint and remain infatuated with him, he doesn't know when he has only left a family relationship with you, and this kind of family relationship continues to fade as he accelerates and drifts away emotionally towards you. You have been dreaming an unchanging beautiful dream, always remembering his past vows of loyalty to you, all of which stems from your strong dependence on him, Being overly dependent on both spiritually and materially, you want to be a happy little woman, and your love life never leaves any way out for you. To put it bluntly, for 7 years, you and him have been playing the role of requester, which is why your current marriage is destined to be passive.
Don't complain about him now. The result of complaining will only accelerate his spiritual deviation from you, not just the distance on the surface. Instead, you should learn to be independent and abandon him as your only passive thought psychologically. Don't let yourself live like a cartilage animal. Without him, you can still control your own destiny. Don't leave your fate to anyone, even if they still love you, Because the two individuals in marriage are first independent and then able to meet each other's needs, your experience is only a bit late. Perhaps if you choose to be strong, he will appreciate you even more.
