I can't bear it anymore. After getting married, my mother-in-law became addicted to eavesdropping on privacy, often lying on the wall and eavesdropping on my husband and me. What's even more unbearable is that my mother-in-law often sneaks in at midnight, covers her husband's bed, or sticks her ears to the crack of the door.
Several times, I was startled when I tried to go to the bathroom, pushed open the door, or opened my eyes. I was always awakened several times in the middle of the night. To my husband, he thought it was very ordinary, saying that my mother had been like this since childhood. If she didn't look at her in the middle of the night, she wouldn't be able to sleep at all.
But now it's my turn to suffer from insomnia. Every day, I don't know when my mother-in-law sneaks in and when to leave again. I always have to wait for the familiar footsteps to arrive, and wait until my mother-in-law throws away her irregular boot before falling asleep.
Over time, he became mentally weak, unable to sleep without taking sleeping pills, and yawning incessantly in class without taking medication. The couple's marital life feels like they have a pair of peeping eyes, and even the small family has no privacy. Why don't we install a door latch. I propose. My husband strongly opposed it, but he couldn't. He was particularly anxious when decorating the house, afraid that my mother might have ideas. My mother and I used to live together and had freedom of entry and exit.
My mother-in-law is particularly diligent. At home during the day, tidy up everything and take a look at everything. There are some things that I have to deliberately hide. You said we should be careful in our daily lives, isn't it very hard? That night, my mother-in-law insisted on urging us to have children, and I perfunctorily said that it's not convenient today. Unexpectedly, my mother-in-law said, "Isn't it inconvenient for you on the 15th?" My pupils dilated at that time.
Oh, my privacy is at a glance, even my mother doesn't know how detailed it is. Just eavesdropping, she pretended to be sick and asked her husband to accompany her to bed. I'm not used to it at all. A man in his late thirties sleeping with his mother is either too feudal or too open - at first glance, it doesn't fit China's national conditions.
My husband explained that his father left early and he had been sleeping in the same bed as his mother. Now that he is married, my mother is definitely not used to it. Mom often gets up in the middle of the night several times to tuck herself in, decades like a day, and the habit becomes better. You see, I'm used to it now - my goodness, they say they can't live with their mother-in-law, and sure enough. I thought he was just a mother and couldn't live outside alone, so I agreed to live together after getting married.
Just stay, I didn't expect them to be unusually close. His mother takes care of everything. My son pushes the door when he takes a bath. I'm really not used to it. In my family, when I grew up, I never even touched my father's hand and rarely wore naked clothes when walking around the living room.
When I was in love, I went to his house and occasionally saw their intimate appearance. I also felt that my husband was very filial, and filial piety was the top priority. I treated my mother so well, and I will treat myself well in the future. Later on, it was discovered that the husband first discussed everything with his mother and handed over all the salary to her. He never refuted her words and always followed her orders.
Talking to me seems to be very indecisive, and it's often what my mother says. Living with such an immature man is tiring. As long as I have a slight disagreement with his mother, he will show me the color on the spot.
His mother encouraged his son: "Son, you can't marry your wife and forget your mother!"
Looking at my mother-in-law's proud expression, I feel really uncomfortable in my heart. How can I handle such a relationship? I am just an accessory in this family, just a tool to meet his physiological needs, a nominal daughter-in-law. I really don't know whether I married her son or her son married his mother - I seem to be an outsider. Daughter in law and mother-in-law share the same man. his mother seems to be my husband's mistress!
I can't figure out what is the reason for this - the man is not weaned yet and has a Oedipus complex - is it normal to eliminate women's jealousy, the mother dotes on her son too much and replaces marriage with her own position?
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)