Post Date April, 15 2023
My husband is in the clothing business and keeps busy every day. We have been married for three years. I was pregnant last year. My reaction during pregnancy is not very big, so I can continue to work. But every time I see my husband in and out of work, I'm a little worried about his health. I have wanted to help him for a long time. Taking advantage of this pregnancy, I quit my job and concentrate on doing business with my husband.
My husband is under a lot of pressure. The rent of the store and the rent of our rental house will not be mentioned for a month. After the baby was born, my husband asked me to find a new job. Because the business at home is off season, he can be busy alone. I can understand his meaning. The children are getting bigger and bigger, which is another expense. We can't rely on our clothing business alone. So I started to work on projects again, hoping to share the pressure of my family. When I had time, I went to the store to help him.
A few months ago, our business began to improve. My husband hired a woman to do the shopping. They talked very well together. After I finished feeding the children at night, I handed them to my mother-in-law for custody, and ran to the store to help my husband take stock. When I went, the woman was already there. I was not good at chatting with strangers, so I listened to them. I don't feel right when I listen to them. Their topic is like that between husband and wife. They are still flirting with each other while talking, regardless of me.
My husband has a bad stomach. It's easy to have stomachache if he eats something wrong. The woman cooked porridge for my husband as soon as she was free. This concern went beyond the concern of an ordinary employee for his boss. Her husband's concern for her was not strange at all, and he accepted it with a smile. Her husband will answer every question she asks. But for my questions, there is always a sentence without a sentence to answer me, and I am more and more puzzled. I checked this woman. She is married and has a child, one year older than my child.
A week ago, my husband said that he was going to buy a batch of goods. I just rested and wanted to go with him. My husband promised to be good, but on that day he called the woman and asked her to accompany her to purchase. I was angry at that time, which made it clear that my husband took my words aside and tried to meet this woman. I was too busy to cook that night, so I ordered takeout. My husband insisted on leaving this woman to have dinner at my house. She was thick-skinned enough and agreed happily. At the dinner table, they chatted happily, and I was full of anger.
Now the situation is that my husband's enthusiasm for that woman is completely higher than that for me. Talk to her about anything and tell me the result directly. As for my suggestion, he doesn't care. Does he understand who is the mistress of the family, who is he or me? Obviously, I am a family member. Now I feel like an outsider. How can I defuse this relationship? I'm in a terrible mood now!
Reply from the consultant:
Hello. At this moment, you should keep calm. From any angle, the relationship between your husband and her is only about hiring and being hired. It is inevitable that they come too close and cause misunderstanding. But no matter how good the relationship is, you should also take into account your feelings. But now, you know, it seems to be deliberately avoiding you. You say you are not good at words, but there are some things that must be said before they can be solved. Hold it in your heart and you will only doubt him.
If they really have something, you dare not ask, so that they can get closer. Now, what you need to do is to investigate whether there is such a thing between them. It is really like what you think, and you must be decisive. In addition, when communicating with your husband, you should not use the questioning attitude and try to keep calm. The more emotional you are, the easier it is to be incoherent and confused.
