Post Date April, 15 2023
I have been married for five years. Since the end of last year, I feel like my husband has changed a person. His words and deeds have almost reached the point of metamorphosis
As long as he has time, he will torture me at night and force me to do things he doesn't want to do in bed. But he doesn't play with those things that are really love between men and women. He just plays with me, and twice tied me up and wrapped me up with the sheets... I have my period on my body, and he is even crazier. I really can't stand him. I feel that he is retaliating against me. If I don't agree with him, he said I was full outside
I'm confused. I don't know what to do? It's not easy to talk to anyone. People outside think I'm sorry for him. Because I lost my head a year ago and had a relationship with my colleague accidentally after drinking a little wine. He is now taking revenge on me. Besides, he and my family both know about my cheating. I don't think anyone is on my side. Is there only one way to divorce in this situation? I can't live a day now. I don't want anyone to understand me. I just hope I don't suffer like this again. Please help me analyze. What should I do?
Reply:
It is obvious that your husband is taking sexual revenge for your past mistakes. And sexual retaliation is often the beginning of a person's sexual abnormality and psychological abnormality. If measures are not taken to stop it in time, the consequences will become more and more serious.
Here is a case. Her husband was a very honest man. At first, he would take the initiative to ask his wife for sex once or twice a week, but for various reasons, his wife always refused her without hesitation. Later, at the instigation of a brother, the husband took a crazy sexual revenge on his wife. In serious cases, he once asked two other men to help him take photos. Later, she resolutely collected relevant evidence and filed for divorce with the court.
Therefore, in view of your situation, the safest and most effective way is to divorce. Because most of the men who enter the state of sexual retaliation, their behavior is difficult to be stopped through communication and education. Of course, you can also take communication solutions. Maybe you can try. According to your statement, it is estimated that your husband's heart is still tied to your cheating. He may have been bitter about it. The more he did not investigate it, the deeper it became. So now the fundamental problem is to do his psychological work, so that he can really see through and put it down. Otherwise, even if you get divorced, he may be very sad.
However, to be frank, there are many reasons for men to retaliate against women. Generally, four types of women are most likely to attract sexual revenge from their husbands:
First, a powerful woman who speaks in one word;
In modern society, a considerable number of families are dominated by women. Men have been oppressed for a long time, and some opinions have not been expressed. The children are all on the side of the wife, and even the matter of the husband and wife's bed has to be decided by the woman. However, this society is still dominated by men. Even if such a husband can listen to you at home, he will inevitably be interfered by all aspects of society. He will change his mind inadvertently. He will not win you in a quarrel. His words won't get more support, and even earn no money. But he is the easiest to put this kind of revenge and demand for equality on the sex and bed of men and women. In the meantime, the deeper he represses, the more likely he is to become crazy. He will do something he wants to do but can't do in the name of husband and wife. Of course, this is only a form of sexual revenge. There are also some people who will take other ways to carry out sexual revenge, that is, complete sexual strike, or play with women to betray each other to achieve the purpose of sexual revenge. Because sexual retaliation is the most covert and powerful retaliation. There are already many people who think of taking sexual revenge when they are "not satisfied" or when they can't justify it.
Second, those who refuse their husband's sexual demands for a long time;
Men are carnivorous animals. When his sexual needs and sexual repression are not released in a timely and effective manner, especially when his wife always evades and refuses with such excuses, he will become sensitive and even paranoid. He will be controlled by male hormones and do something he dare not do at ordinary times.
Therefore, although men are wrong in sexual revenge, women also need to reflect. As a wife, she should fulfill her sexual obligation to her husband. Men are not women. They are far higher in the frequency of sexual needs than women. Sexual refusal is not an inexhaustible magic weapon for women to manage men. When used more often, it will be useless, but will leave many sequelae.
Third, women with strong sexual desire;
The best language between husband and wife is the language of sex. Through sex, we can learn some information that we could not understand before. Every detail of sex often carries a pair of sensitive tentacles. However, it is a double-edged sword. It not only helps to let the other party enter your heart, but also makes it easy for the other party to find your weakness and generate some distrust and suspicion towards you. There is such a man who feels his wife's extremely strong sexual desire through his sex life with his wife, so he no longer goes to work in other places, always strengthens his body, and buys many foods and drugs to strengthen kidney and sexual function... All he has done is for one purpose - "You can't let her wear a green hat even if you work hard". To be honest, there are many such men. Therefore, it is not difficult to explain that men will take sexual revenge because of women's strong sexual desire.
Fourth, the flirtatious woman who is easy to drink.
For this last one, it is obvious. On the one hand, a man loves such a gorgeous woman, but on the other hand, he doesn't trust her. He knows his wife better than anyone else. She is open, active and frivolous, and she is used to actively smile at many men... All of this will be a crisis of his man's dignity. In order to protect his dignity, a man will easily think of taking the initiative to "attack". Aren't you water and water? Then I will finish and "feed" you first.
To sum up, sexual retaliation is a manifestation of men's pursuit of equality or higher male power. It exposes the animal nature of many men's thinking about sex. It is dangerous and pathetic, and it is also worth the attention of many female compatriots and needs continuous improvement.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
