My husband's monthly salary exceeds ten thousand months, and after two years of marriage, I have been constantly backtracking. He thinks I am not virtuous and cheating on women

My husband and I have been married for two years and have no children. He is a manager of an e-commerce company with a monthly salary of over 10000 yuan; I work as an administrative assistant in a company with a monthly salary of less than 5000 yuan. I met my husband on a blind date at the beginning. He was quite handsome, had a decent job, and his salary was not low. He also had a good impression of me. After looking at each other, the two quickly entered the mode of marriage.

The first year after marriage was not peaceful. Although we got married in a house given by our parents and didn't have the pressure to repay the mortgage, we will have children in the future and don't have any money in hand to raise children in the future. The way my husband spends money makes me feel a bit overwhelmed. When he first got married, he was relatively good and handed over his salary to me for management. Living a frugal life, I have calculated that besides living expenses, we can save at least 10000 yuan per month. However, the plan cannot keep up with the changes.

As long as my husband has no money, he opens his mouth and asks me for branded clothes, shoes, and treats. He spends a lot of money on them almost every month, and even sends money to relatives and friends during the Chinese New Year holiday. On the surface, it feels a lot to look at ten thousand yuan, but it can't withstand his constant struggles. Before the end of each month, not only did he spend all his money, but I also gave him a lot of feedback. For two years, this situation has always been the same. I reasoned with him and tried to argue with him, but he rejected me, saying, 'You can't make ends meet without money.'.

He has such a mentality that my salary is lower than him, and I can't convince him at all. Fighting has become a common occurrence for us, and I can't manage him, and he doesn't even bother to let me manage him. A while ago, he asked me for money again. His salary had already been ruined by him, and he wanted my money. He said that the new Apple phone had arrived, and his colleagues had all changed it. He also wanted to change it and asked me to give him money. I don't agree, so he insulted me, saying that I don't have the appearance of a wife, I'm not in the same heart as him, and I'm not virtuous at all.

Poor couples mourn everything because of money, and our relationship has changed. He didn't know how to go home and didn't pay his salary. He was self reliant, and to my disappointment, he even got involved with a woman from a bar and went there to drink and consume whenever he had time. Now think about it, what is the purpose of marrying such an unpopular man?

Reply from Weiqing Consultant:

It's really annoying for men to be disrespectful. You met through blind dates, and you only valued his appearance and job nature, without truly understanding this person. This kind of man who spends money like water and doesn't know how to make a living, can't feel any sense of security following him except for being oppressed, in short, he has no idea. He squanders his youth and uses infidelity to vent his dissatisfaction with you and his marriage. If he doesn't break these bad habits, you will only get worse and worse if you continue to live with him. Marriage has only lasted for two years. If you don't want this family to fall apart, find a way to save him and awaken his conscience. If he goes his own way and enjoys living like this, then leaving him is the right choice for you.