Post Date December, 02 2023
Q:
My love affair with my husband was like a beautiful love movie.
From acquaintance to union, the process was particularly romantic. Back then, I went on a solo trip to Yunnan. By chance, the owner of the inn where I lived, my current husband, and I fell in love. "For him, I gave up all my career in Zhejiang and left my relatives in my hometown to marry him.".
In the eyes of my friends, this relationship is very romantic, and they all envy me. "But in the eyes of my husband's friends, I have a bad intention. They just don't like me, and maybe sometimes I prefer to take care of my husband.". After getting married, my husband is still playful, and I never thought he was married and should have a sense of family responsibility. Instead, I spend all day with friends. If I keep him from going out to play, his friends will scold me and ask him to divorce me.
At first, when I was angry, my husband would still be afraid of me and wouldn't go out. However, before long, he also felt bored with me and wouldn't listen to me anymore. If he wanted to go out, he would go out. "I was so angry at home that I wept alone, but his friend still spoke ill of me in front of him, egged him on to divorce me, and some people deliberately introduced him to a new girlfriend directly in front of me.".
After getting married, I couldn't conceive because I wasn't well, and his family wasn't happy either. Therefore, considering the above reasons, he is now determined to divorce me. But I love him very much, and I don't want a divorce. Can I not divorce?
Answer:
"If your husband wants to divorce you because he listens to your friends or family, then a man like this is really not worth your love, a marriage like this is not worth saving, and a life like this will not bring you happiness.".
If there are deeper reasons why he wants to divorce you, then you need to try to find out the reason and see what the situation is and whether there is room for redemption.
Moreover, when you say that your husband is more playful, while you tend to care more about him, this naturally creates a big contradiction. You can use other ways to make him aware of his responsibilities after marriage, rather than blindly controlling him and not letting him go out, which will only make him more rebellious.
