My husband's domestic violence is serious. I am particularly scared of an extreme act after drinking

My husband and I have been married for five years now. From the first year of marriage, when we were pregnant to the present day, whether we were pregnant or having a baby, he usually hit me because of some trivial things. The most memorable time was when he hit me on the head with his fist from the first floor to the sixth floor. During this period, my father-in-law still stopped me and kept scolding me when I came home. I occasionally said a word, and his hand waved at me again. Then he went directly to the kitchen to get a kitchen knife and said he would kill me! Fortunately, my father-in-law stopped me!

Yesterday morning, he scolded me for family chores. He scolded me very hard. Then he scolded me endlessly. I can't stand to leave! He said that if you leave, don't come back. Throw all my clothes out of the wardrobe and let me go quickly! I said that I called my aunt and asked someone to pick me up. I called my aunt and he grabbed the cell phone and refused to call. Later, my aunt called to ask about the situation, and he told my aunt about it. I didn't say much!

He will be fine after hanging up the phone, and he won't let me go. But at dinner, he drank a lot of wine. When I washed the dishes in the kitchen, he called me, saying that he was upset and asked me to take medicine for him. After I helped him feed his mouth, I knew that some of his performances were fake. Then he said what I live longer than him, he can't live me! I said don't talk nonsense. Nobody knows these things! I went out to wash the dishes. After a while, I heard him crying. I went to ask him and ignored him. Then I put on my clothes and went away. I said where you are going. I drank wine on such a cold day. Don't go out. He said you should leave me alone! I can't stand him. He went out and heard him crying in the corridor. He also ignored me when he came back!

After a while, he came back to pinch my neck and held the scissors against my stomach. I felt my flesh was punctured. He said you want to die? I want to die, but I'm too lonely alone. Please accompany me! Later, I asked him what was the matter. After all, the scissors were about to be cut, and he left again! Say what is dead and alive!

There are two children in my family, and I dare not leave them out. I immediately call my aunt to come here, in case he has something, how can I tell his parents! I'm in a hurry to call his sister and let her calm him down first! After 20 minutes, he came back. His sister called to ask about the situation. When he came back, I said, "Don't worry, he is back, so I hung up!"! Who is his phone number? I said your sister, he said my sister knew I was back, then I left!

I said don't go. Where are you going? I'll call my sister when you go! He didn't leave. He called me to the bedroom and brought me to the door. He said if you want to die, you should die first and I will come again! He pressed me to the bed and covered my mouth. I moved him and pulled the quilt. Later, he sat on the ground in a tangle. He still said that, what death! He strangled my neck from behind, and I cried out when I was sad. My three-and-a-half year-old son ran in, saw me crying, saw his father pinch me with his hand, ran up and hit his father on the face several times. My husband said that I was also red in the eye anyway, and gave his son a hard slap on the buttocks. The son cried, and then ran out, and he continued to pinch me. I didn't want to annoy him, I wanted to drag time, so I took the opportunity to say a few words to him.

After three or five minutes, I finally heard a knock at the door. He ran out to open the door. My aunt and uncle came! He also continued to talk about my faults. He said that you would take her away, and I would not stay! At this moment, I want to stay and go. I'm scared. I'm scared! My savior is coming. I think I will leave soon. I'm so scared! He will kill me! However, when aunt and uncle make peace, they should still put family first and children first! In the end, he still didn't let me go!

As soon as they left, the children threw biscuits everywhere, and he found fault with the children. He began to beat the children. I stopped him, holding the children and continued to beat them. The children's buttocks were bare, and the spanked children's buttocks were red, and there were edges! If he doesn't hit me, he must be taking his anger out of the child. I didn't want to see the chat record between him and his sister. His sister said that you must have said a lot of ugly words, and asked him to apologize to me! He said that he had nothing wrong with apologizing. Let his sister go to bed earlier (his sister only knows that we quarreled and didn't know that he pinched me)! I feel so sad and scared!

I used to think that the person beside me was a time bomb. Now I feel even more scared! What should I do now? He is cautious and likes to be suspicious. He has a tendency of violence after drinking. As long as he sees you unhappy, he will have nothing to do. If he irritates you, he will find you to order! Or sometimes he just drinks wine to find fault. What should I do?

reply:

1. A man has a tendency of domestic violence. He is either naturally cruel or has a dark heart; Either life is not happy, or there is a lack of love in the heart. To this end, you should carefully examine your husband to see what kind of person he is. Make a comparison before and after marriage to see why this person is like this? Is he dissatisfied with you or with marriage and life?

2. Normally, once a woman encounters a man who is often violent, she should never tolerate it. Otherwise, the threat of injury will be terrible. Because men's violence will be addictive, once men become addicted to domestic violence, the consequences will be unimaginable. Women don't have to joke about their dignity or even their life. Marrying is to live a happy marriage, not to be beaten.

3. Therefore, as a woman, in front of such a terrible man, we must protect ourselves and protect our children, and the most effective protective measures are to stay away from this man in time. Go as far as you can. Of course, if your husband is sick, he should fulfill his responsibilities as a wife and take him to see a psychologist for treatment as soon as possible. If it is your nature and your mentality is bad, it is your wise choice to leave decisively.

4. When you think about it, marriage is really boring. Every day I am always shrouded in the shadow of terror and violence. I have no sense of security in my life. How can I talk about happiness? Therefore, such a marriage is worthless. If you can give up, don't hesitate. If you can leave, there is no need to entangle. However, you must keep yourself independent and self-reliant, don't give up the custody of your child, and keep your child away from this violent man. The road to the future lies at your feet, and your right choice determines your future happiness. Otherwise, to endure the humiliation of the present marriage will only make your life more embarrassing and frightening.