Post Date December, 03 2023
Although my husband and I had some unpleasant experiences before marriage, overall our relationship was excellent, so after two years of dating, we got married. The life after marriage is sweet, although it may not be like paint or glue, at least we are happy.
In the second year of my marriage, I gave birth to my precious son. Perhaps due to excessive psychological pressure, I unexpectedly developed postpartum depression and often experienced some unnamed sexual activity. As it happened, my father also passed away suddenly due to the torment of illness. My father has always been a very important person in my heart. His departure has left my life without direction, and I feel that my innocence is about to collapse.
After slowly emerging from the pain, I realized that I had lost interest in married life and spent most of my time with my son. Because I have to take care of my son, I have been sleeping in separate rooms with my husband for a long time. Even if my husband needs it, I am very reluctant and resistant. We usually only have a sexual intercourse for two to three months. In fact, I also know my mistake, but in my heart, I am very resistant.
During a business trip, my husband finally cheated and got involved with a singer. Later on, he often couldn't control himself and ran out whenever he had time. I had a long conversation with my husband, and he admitted that he had made a mistake and promised that this would not happen again in the future. Because of this, I also went to see a doctor, but there was no improvement. I can feel that my husband is still in contact with that singer, but I dare not make trouble with him. I am afraid that if it gets too big, he will divorce me. But if I avoid discussing it, my husband will become even worse. What should I do?
Reply:
In fact, every couple cannot have smooth sailing in real life, and there will be some twists and turns that depend on how you handle them. Many times, it is not necessarily that having an extramarital affair leads to family breakdown. Although many couples have had extramarital affairs before, they still live happily ever after.
Most women are like you. After having children, most of their energy is focused on them, and they care less about their husbands. Besides, your postpartum depression, coupled with the impact of your father's passing, has deepened your frigidity. For men, sexual desire is strongest in their thirties, and sometimes it can also be a form of venting.
From this point of view, it is not unforgivable for your husband to seek help from a singing girl for his physiological needs. As long as he really doesn't have any contact with that woman, try to forgive him. More importantly, you must immediately solve your own problems. Only by restoring normal marital life can you live a happier life.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
