Post Date December, 03 2023
My husband is younger than me, but he knows how to take care of others. We just have a second son. Although he is always good to me, I still feel that there is no relationship between us! On the day of my first pregnancy and labor, he got up early and went out to have a room with other women. When he came back at noon, I accidentally saw his intimate words and naked photos with other women in his mobile phone.
At that time, I didn't have a seizure in front of my family. In the afternoon, I chose a person to come to the hospital and sign the cesarean section order! A man finished all the examinations and was hospitalized. He came to the hospital to see me at ten o'clock in the evening. Facing me, he kept silent, didn't say, didn't explain, and followed me. Until now, I can't let go. In the morning of that day, he clearly saw that I saw a large amount of blood and got up early to rush to the meeting. Where did he put me?
Because he is very considerate to me and will take care of me very much. Give me all the money. Just bring enough money for me to take a taxi, and I will settle down! He has been like this for one year, two years and three years. Last year, I got pregnant again because of the business failure. When I was pregnant for four months, he left us to make money in other places. Even if he met briefly, he didn't stay together. Until now, the child has been more than three months. He came back a few days ago, but we spent two days in peace. Others said that parting is better than marriage, and distance produces beauty. Why didn't it happen to us.
I was also full of joy when he came back this time. He packed himself up and looked forward to him continuously. He also surprised me, took a car overnight, appeared in front of me when I woke up, and took me and the children out for two days! In the evening, he said that he was tired and would be lingering tomorrow! Then I fell asleep, listening to his snoring, I couldn't fall asleep all the time. I cried and cried loudly. When I couldn't restrain my crying, my fist hit the wall (the next day I found it was red and swollen), but he slept soundly!
Finally, I couldn't stand it. I woke him up. I said that his voice made me unable to sleep. I asked him to sleep in the outer bed. He saw that my mood was wrong, but went out without saying more! I can't understand why he can be so calm when we have been close for a year? I know that there are women outside the men in the circle around him. His friends who came with him this time came to play with the little women. I have never interfered with him too much. It is not easy and tiring for a man to make money outside. As long as he does not go too far, he will let him go.
I can see other people and understand society, but I can't let him go. I have always felt that he could not live in peace outside, even if he gave me all his so-called money (I also believe)! The next night, I still let him go to the outside room. Maybe my attitude was tough and he obeyed. He didn't plead and talk too much, which made me feel that he just didn't want to be intimate with me, and he hated me with two children now.
I can't stand such a marriage. In the early morning of the next night, I woke him up again and talked to him about my idea of divorce! He is very aggrieved. He is silent again in a few words. When I cry, he also cried. He is very good at talking and talking with others. Why is he not good at talking when he is with me? I want to listen to him, but he is always good at silence and obedience
Now that I have added his number to the blacklist, I will not return the information. I told him that a marriage without feelings is pathetic. Let's reflect on each other. Don't contact each other during this period. I think I can really leave now. I can take one of my children with me (or maybe I am arrogant and don't want to live)!
I hope you can understand what I'm talking about. I'm a down-to-earth person with a wild mind. I'm worried about the status quo and content with the status quo. I'm depressed. I don't know what's the problem between us? How on earth should we live?
reply:
Generally speaking, 'small' men have a poor sense of responsibility. Unfortunately, you chose small fresh meat under the consideration of greed, so you chose the wrong marriage object. Because this' little 'man is unreliable after all. He doesn't choose to be with you, but to betray you when you are in labor, which is the most important and most difficult time in your life. Don't you think he is special? Can you find a sense of security for such a man? But how dare you continue to give him a second child?
When your second child was four months pregnant, he began to leave you to make money in other places. He said that he was making money. But if he didn't make money, you should know what he did outside. Don't tell me that your second child was born by signing in the hospital. What's the point of finding such a man? Nothing can be expected of him. He is not around at the critical moment of life. After being with him, he doesn't have the least 'sexual interest' for you. Therefore, your marriage is basically on the verge of extinction.
As for your problem? The main problem lies in you. First, you have a problem in choosing people. In particular, choosing a life partner should not only look at the surface and treat you well, but should go deep into his personality and understand his life; The second is your easy indulgence to men, that is, you can easily compromise the principle issues in marriage. Because you don't ignore your bottom line and over-understand your man, you feel that a man is tired of working outside, so you let him go. In fact, you hurt him. He and you have a poor sense of family responsibility when they married. You let him go, and the result will only make him more forgetful. Finally, you don't even touch you. Who caused this responsibility, does it have nothing to do with you?
Now that marriage has become such a thing, let's think about it calmly. Where should we go? If you want to continue this marriage, you must have enough courage to continue to face the possible past. If you want to improve your marriage, you will test your wisdom and repair ability in marriage management. If you don't think about it, try to strengthen yourself, care for children, and be a strong woman who really loves herself and doesn't depend on others.
