Sexual Health
My husband went out to work and was not at home. I was mentally derailed by a male doctor due to emptiness and boredom
I'm cheating now. It's a mental cheating.
My husband and I were introduced to each other. He is nine years older than me, a native, and I am a stranger. I may have lacked a sense of security since I was young, and I hope to find someone older than myself to marry. Therefore, I chose my current husband, who has a real responsibility and is a special axis. "I thought to myself, as long as he treats me well, we've been in contact for some time.".
"On May 1st, 2005, we got married, and it was a naked marriage. After eating a meal with our relatives, we were married.". After marriage, life was very dull. Two years later, I proposed to my husband to have a child. He said that at present, we have nothing to offer, and I will give up raising the child. "But my mother said how old you are and don't want children yet, so I have to use no money to block my mother's mouth, so I've been dragging on until now.".
"I'm 36 years old, he's 45 years old, and we don't have children yet. This year, he went out to work, and I was alone at home. I was bored, so I played WeChat and met a doctor. He's from the south, three years younger than me, and he's unmarried.".
At first, it was just a chat, but later on, we got closer and closer. He and his girlfriend have been breaking up for five years and couldn't put it down before. In the past two years, he didn't have time to find work. He said he was in love with me now, wanted me to divorce and marry him, and I also fell in love with him. What should I do? How should I face my husband?
reply:
1. There was no romantic love before marriage, nor was there a decent wedding. At that time, your requirements were not high, and what you wanted was very simple. After marriage, you only want a child that belongs to you and satisfies a woman's instincts. In fact, the requirements are not high. However, when these basic needs cannot be guaranteed, driven by time, your heart slowly becomes tortured, and there is nowhere to release your energy. Therefore, over the years, the unchanging life has already made you deeply bored. "My husband's long-term absence makes it even more difficult to stay alone in an empty room. Therefore, you choose to use chat tools to kill those lonely and boring days and nights.". It's just that you don't know there are risks in chatting, so be careful when making friends.
2. "Now that you're putting yourself in a state of mental infidelity, I don't know if you've ever met during the chat process. If you're just staying in the romantic reverie stage, if you're just relying on a photo, a video, some sweet talk type of lovesickness, this seemingly unexpected and beautiful relationship, you still shouldn't treat it as a reliable thing to do, because it's too realistic,", Because there is a great distance between ideal and reality.
3. Please don't forget your current identity. You are a married person with a husband. What qualifications do you have to talk to other men and unmarried young people now? You don't have the freedom. Unless you really choose to divorce your husband and return to single status, how much confidence and full confidence do you have in this relationship? Do you dare to take this risk again?
4. Since you know that you cannot face your existing husband, you may choose to return to him in a disciplined manner and remain loyal to him and your marriage; Or simply break up with your husband and rediscover your future. "And we must not enjoy the treatment of our husbands here, and we also want to usurp unmarried young people there.". Calm down and think about it. What exactly do you want? You have the right to choose love and happiness. No one can force you to be with someone you don't love, nor can anyone prevent you from spending your entire life with the person you want to love. The key is to look at your true heart. Everything has been planned, and there is nothing wrong with making any decisions, except that you need to bear all the risks for your own choices.