Post Date December, 03 2023
Chief Complaint of the Case
Three years ago, I chose to get married because I was pregnant. In fact, my husband and I only knew each other for less than six months at that time. Although we fell in love at first sight, our marital life did not match as well as when we were in love.
Both of us are working class. Moreover, my husband and I choose to live in a different place, and due to the expenses of our children, it is indeed difficult to maintain our husband's income. Therefore, when our child was 8 months old, I asked my mother to take care of the child from my hometown and found a job on my own.
Because my job requires shifts, I often come home in the middle of the night. At first, my husband kept silent, but over time, he often made big moves over small matters and advised me to quit this job. However, based on the decent salary, I didn't agree.
Two years later, my work hours were adjusted to normal, but my intuition told me that our relationship had problems. Although he had never stayed out overnight, we had almost no marital life. And the night before yesterday, he said in his sleep, 'I miss you very much, I love you, and I realized he was cheating.'.
Teacher, what should I do? I don't want to get divorced on impulse because the child is still young and I think there is still a relationship between me and him. How can I recover it?
Expert diagnosis
The relationship between a couple in marriage, just like a lover, requires careful maintenance. From the description, it can be seen that the node where your relationship occurred was during your shift. At that time, your husband suggested that you resign from this job, which was his resistance towards you, but you did not compromise or truly balance this matter.
From your perspective, perhaps you need to first consider what you have missed in this matter. Although you are busy with work, have you ever taken time to chat with your husband and care about him?
From your husband's current performance, being willing to go home and not spending the night outside indicates that he still cares for the family. Therefore, you can try to talk to him in a relaxed state, knowing that good communication is a solid foundation for maintaining marital relationships. Sincerely express your apologies for the lack of concern for him in the past, as well as your desire to make him feel your love for him and hope for the integrity and happiness of his family.
Strive to save your husband with practical actions, and there will be gains with effort.
