My husband took advantage of his separation and fooled around with a female colleague from the 90s generation, which made life difficult for me

I got married in 2003 and we lived separately, but we couldn't transfer jobs together. Later, in 2012, we bought a house together and decorated it, and then I discovered that he had a 90s generation outside. I am 77 years old, four years older than him, and he is 81 years old. At first, he didn't admit it, but later on, the girl left a lot of things, and I found out. They are in the same unit, and he said the woman is pestering him, saying they won't contact him anymore, and the woman has been transferred to another unit, so I believe it.

Then, last May Day, I accidentally found a photo of the woman lying under the blanket on my computer. I asked him what was going on, but he couldn't explain it. He got divorced, but even after a long argument, it was the woman who took a photo of me in bed. I was often away from home, taking my children to work outside of town, and only came back every two or three weeks. It's been four years now. I said leave, but he also said he doesn't want to leave. I said live well, but he said he can't continue.

I earn money to support my children, and he doesn't give me money now. He even asks me for money, thinking that I won't help him pay his debts. Teacher, after four years, I feel like I'm living or dying. Recently, he has had a cold war with me again. He bought a house in his city, and his family said I was looking for trouble for him. Now he says they haven't contacted me anymore, but I don't believe it. What should I do?

reply:

Hello, separation between two places is one of the most dangerous factors leading to marital infidelity. What is the most important thing for couples to be together? It is mutual companionship and the ability to spend time together. And if you persist in such a state of separation for a long time, it will naturally create opportunities for the other party to cheat. Moreover, how can a person manage their lower body after enduring loneliness and cold torment for a long time? Fortunately, you have children by your side, so there are many adjustments and sustenance, while your husband is not surprised if he is raising them alone at home without any accidents.

No matter who earns money to support their family and raise children, there is nothing wrong with it, but the premise is that the other party should know gratitude and cannot rely on the other party to carry it alone with peace of mind. Couples have the obligation to jointly manage their marriage, so why should a master reach out to you for money? You must not get used to this. He has a beautiful idea. Not only does he not only make money but also flirts with little girls. It's simply unacceptable. Why do you want such a man?

So, think carefully, don't live such a life again. If you don't immediately change your current separation situation, your existing problems will continue. Since you have reached a point where life is not worth dying for your existing marriage, why should you persist? If marriage falls to an unnecessary level, it is simply too sad. If you no longer have any trust in him, then continuing with this marriage will definitely not lead to happiness. Make your own decision on where to go.